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Model railroading a boring hobby ?...

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Posted by rolleiman on Tuesday, January 24, 2006 12:52 PM
QUOTE: Originally posted by Tracklayer

I was told today by a girl that I've been interested in for a while now that model railroading was one of the most boring hobbies on earth, and that we (model railroaders) go to so much trouble and expense just so we can sit and watch our trains go around and around the track... She said she could think of a lot of better ways to spend her time (yea, like at the mall blowing money shopping!...). She doesn't like my dogs, guns or the Three Stooges either... I just wonder what kind of guy she's looking for - if a guy at all... (Sorry, but I couldn't resist saying that.) It's too bad though because she's really cute.
Oh well. There's plenty more fish in the sea.

Tracklayer



RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Get as Far away from her as you Can. Get together with her and you'll Soon learn that those aren't the Only things about you she doesn't like. The pretty face will turn into the wicked witch faster than you can blink an eye.
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Posted by Anonymous on Tuesday, January 24, 2006 1:36 PM

You clean your fish in the bathtub?! I love you, man. Its funny when my sister sits down to take a bath, and gets a catfish spine in her butt.

OK...I'll start it off .........You Just Might be a Redneck If ..........

You bring a can of beer in with you on a job interview.

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While I have gutted fish, I must admit I never did in a bathtub. This has, however, happened in my extended family.

What is scary is that I am actually from Northern New Jersey and work as a consultant. That said, I do prefer life in central PA. I am also honored that the first verse in the "Redneck Twelve Days of Christmas" is " . . . my true love gave to me . . . parts for a Mustang GT".
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Posted by Anonymous on Tuesday, January 24, 2006 4:25 PM
QUOTE: Originally posted by cwclark

don't like trains?...dump her first chance you get!...compatability is the name of the game and if she's not willing...give her the boot....there's an old saying if you stay with her..if momma's not happy...nobody's happy....find a gal that will get into it like you do or at least tolerate it....when i met my wife that was the first thing i got thru to her..i play with trains and if you don't like it, there's the door and don't let it hit you in the rump on your way out...she now understands and i don't hear a peep out of her about my trains even though she doesn't mess with them....chuck
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Posted by brothaslide on Tuesday, January 24, 2006 5:10 PM
Tracklayer - I wanted to respond to you privately but you haven't listed an e-mail in your profile. If you get a chance, e-mail me. (there is a link in my profile.)

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Posted by Anonymous on Tuesday, January 24, 2006 5:17 PM
QUOTE: Originally posted by TrevorG

Not that this is the place of relationship advice, but any woman worth getting and keeping had better be more than alright with your hobbies and other likes. If she isn't, she might think she can change you, and in the end either you change and give up those things, or you end of going your separate ways. Eitherway it's a bad ending.

Trevor


HELL......NO! That happend to me once and I tell you what....NEVER AGAIN! I got involved in a Woman and I lost everything. Woman are not worth the Trouble. I gave up Model Trains for a Woman. Never again. Im not saying that ALL Woman are bad. Allan.
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Posted by Anonymous on Tuesday, January 24, 2006 10:09 PM
i went fishing soem last wekend and the wwek before, the weather has been pretty plesant heer for Kansas in January
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Posted by vsmith on Wednesday, January 25, 2006 10:00 AM
QUOTE: Originally posted by Tracklayer

QUOTE: Originally posted by vsmith

QUOTE: Originally posted by Tracklayer

QUOTE: Originally posted by davekelly

Tracklayer,

Hmmmmmm.


What ?. You interested ?. Her name's Kimberly, she's 37, is divorced, has two kids (a boy and girl 7 and 10), works at a local bank, is very attractive and has longer fangs than any vampire I've ever seen if you know what I mean...
I admit that in her opinion, I'm probably very immature for being 42. So maybe it's better things haven't gone any farther than they have. I'm happy with my life just as it is-immaturity, trains, dogs, guns, Three Stooges and all!.

Tracklayer


Dump & Run, & Run fast...

37?... Oh boy, hard to say with conviction but based on my past experiences, I hate to say but I dont think she's gonna change for anyone in anyway whatsoever. Doesnt like ANY of your interests ? Very bad... It will end one of two ways, she dumps you because of your boring hobbies...or you will have to dump every interest you have and only do things she approves of....now who will be bored out of their minds, eh? Think about it... I see little chance to find a balance here if she's as one sided as it sounds. I've been down a road like this in the deep dark past, if she's not tolerent of your interests now, she never will be. I'm really surprised though that she doesnt consider your hobby a possible bridge to help with connecting with her kids, thats another big warning sign if she hasnt considered letting her kids get involved if they wanted to.

My wife has been tolerent of my hobbies, and PS, she doesnt care for the 3 stooges either but at least she doesnt mind me watching them.

Doesnt like dogs? Sheeesh![V]

PS PS just read the "dad" thing, Oh boy that really screws you...that really torpedoes keeping your hobby in any kind of relationship.


I've got another one for you vsmith. About eleven years ago, I met a girl that had moved down here to Texas from Queens New York. We hit it off great at first, then the next thing you know she starts picking me to pieces. First she didn't like the fact that I drove a Chevy truck instead of a luxury car, then she didn't like the idea that I had such a large gun collection, then she didn't like any of the movies or anything I liked. Finally one day the spit hit the fan and we had it out, and when all was said and done, I not only found out that she didn't like anything about me, but had been seeing another guy behind my back and was pregnant by him... This girl that I was talking about that made me so mad today reminds me so much of that little witch it's not even funny. And by the way, the one from NY had two kids also, and didn't want them getting into "my dead end hobbies"...

I really have the luck with women don't I...

Tracklayer


or maybe just stay away from New York chicks....[;)]

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Posted by vsmith on Wednesday, January 25, 2006 10:12 AM
QUOTE: Originally posted by swdave

Tracklayer without looking at your Bio and just reading your post.I thought you where some teenager between 15 &17. But 42 and putting this S*** on here, you need to get a F****** life! You guy's called On30 a moron for posting that photo in man V train! Whats this s*** ,call Dr.Phil!



Jezzzuzzz.........someone needs a Chill Pill![V]

Dave while you may not see this as a legit MR issue many others here do. This is a real issue for many in the hobby. There is a real stigma about the hobby in the eyes of those outside it. Finding someone thats tolerant or hopefully supportive of any hobby today can be very daunting given the singles marketplace today. Lord knows the types of girls I liked in my singles days would always be negative about my hobbies, so I know what Tracklayer is going thru. When I was working in a firm right out of college, and making great $, I knew a girl who thought model trains were stupid and childish...who did she end up moving in with ? Some moron who was huge into R/C model cars and who worked in a LHS for min. wage ...... go figure.[;)][V]

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Posted by tjsmrinfo on Friday, January 27, 2006 1:50 AM
tracklayer take care. i was involved wIth a woman who was all about herself and power hungry i lost a lot of money furniture and a house cause of her. my current gf likes ceramics and i support her as she knows a whole lot more about painting and dry brushing than i do. also she likes cats and traind and her fav color is purple.

she lives in the boston area and rides MBTA to and from work and thinks trains are cool
. i helped he build an athearn covered hopper kit and i try to find her chessie system stuff, im also building her a mechanical reefer and a loc in purple with white lettering..



theres other women out there. are you sure shes from texas tracklayer?? not liking dogs? please. in my book shes not worth the effort cute or not.

my gf may not be the best looking girl on the outside but on the inside shes down right beautiful.


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Posted by Tracklayer on Friday, January 27, 2006 2:47 AM
QUOTE: Originally posted by tjsmrinfo

tracklayer take care. i was involved wIth a woman who was all about herself and power hungry i lost a lot of money furniture and a house cause of her. my current gf likes ceramics and i support her as she knows a whole lot more about painting and dry brushing than i do. also she likes cats and traind and her fav color is purple.

she lives in the boston area and rides MBTA to and from work and thinks trains are cool
. i helped he build an athearn covered hopper kit and i try to find her chessie system stuff, im also building her a mechanical reefer and a loc in purple with white lettering..



theres other women out there. are you sure shes from texas tracklayer?? not liking dogs? please. in my book shes not worth the effort cute or not.

my gf may not be the best looking girl on the outside but on the inside shes down right beautiful.


tom


Hello tjsmrinfo (Tom). I met Kimberly when I would go through the "drive through" to make deposits and cash checks there at the bank where she works. It started out with us flirting back and forth until one day we were talking and she said she hadn't been out to eat and to a movie in a long time, and gave me that look like - well, are you going to ask me out or not ?..., so of course I did (bad mistake!). She was nice at first, but then the more I got to know her the less I liked her. It finally got to where all we did was pick on each other and see who could run each other down the most. Since the other day when I wrote this topic, we've had serious words, and I doubt we'll be seeing each other anymore which is just fine with me. I'm not perfect, but she's a super b***h if there ever was one... She's stuck on herself and thinks because she's attractive that she should be worshipped by guys like some kind of goddess and treated like royalty - literally!. Oh well. I kind of figured she was that way in the back of my mind, and from now on will stick with the better class of females like I should have in the first place.

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Posted by Anonymous on Friday, January 27, 2006 6:58 AM
QUOTE: Originally posted by Tracklayer

QUOTE: Originally posted by tjsmrinfo

tracklayer take care. i was involved wIth a woman who was all about herself and power hungry i lost a lot of money furniture and a house cause of her. my current gf likes ceramics and i support her as she knows a whole lot more about painting and dry brushing than i do. also she likes cats and traind and her fav color is purple.

she lives in the boston area and rides MBTA to and from work and thinks trains are cool
. i helped he build an athearn covered hopper kit and i try to find her chessie system stuff, im also building her a mechanical reefer and a loc in purple with white lettering..



theres other women out there. are you sure shes from texas tracklayer?? not liking dogs? please. in my book shes not worth the effort cute or not.

my gf may not be the best looking girl on the outside but on the inside shes down right beautiful.


tom


Hello tjsmrinfo (Tom). I met Kimberly when I would go through the "drive through" to make deposits and cash checks there at the bank where she works. It started out with us flirting back and forth until one day we were talking and she said she hadn't been out to eat and to a movie in a long time, and gave me that look like - well, are you going to ask me out or not ?..., so of course I did (bad mistake!). She was nice at first, but then the more I got to know her the less I liked her. It finally got to where all we did was pick on each other and see who could run each other down the most. Since the other day when I wrote this topic, we've had serious words, and I doubt we'll be seeing each other anymore which is just fine with me. I'm not perfect, but she's a super b***h if there ever was one... She's stuck on herself and thinks because she's attractive that she should be worshipped by guys like some kind of goddess and treated like royalty - literally!. Oh well. I kind of figured she was that way in the back of my mind, and from now on will stick with the better class of females like I should have in the first place.

Tracklayer
Dude,I feel sorry for you. Have you learned anything yet from this? That is why I will not Date Woman. Because they want everything their way. [V]
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Posted by ATSFCLIFF on Friday, January 27, 2006 7:16 AM
If she doesn't like dogs and model railroading, dump her!
Cheers,

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Posted by dragenrider on Friday, January 27, 2006 8:50 AM
While I can't really add much to this discussion that hasn't already been said, I feel compelled to join in. This is a sensitive area for me. I firmly believe that life is too short to waste it trying to please other people. Likewise, the days are too few to give up or pass up enjoying my life.

That said, I'm blessed to have a wife who is wise enough to let me be who I am and as I am. I picked very carefully before marrying a second time. The first one was a nightmare! The things I used to judge a good wife are:

1. What's her mother like. That's what your wife will be in 30 years, whether it be nagging, obese, grandmotherly, etc.

2. Does she accept you and appreciate you the way that you are? If she has delusions of changing you after marriage then look out for the friction coming! [banghead] A hotbox can derail a whole train if it's not caught in time.

3. Does she have a life and interests of her own? If so, then she will never feel that your little toys are taking time away from her.

4. How much carry-on baggage does she have? If there is so much it has to be put in the baggage car, it's probably more than you want in a relationship.

5. How pretty is she? [:X] It doesn't matter. Make sure she can carry on a good conversation and laugh a lot. When you get older, conversation, love and laughter will be there to sustain the relationship long after the beauty fades.

6. Compare her goals in life with your own. If they conflict to excess, skip it. One or the other of you will get their way and the loser will be resentful of the other spouse.

7. Does she like to play? No, I'm not talking about sex. This is a family forum! I mean does she like to relax and cut up? If so, racing to beat the train will be fun, train chasing will be an adventure, and the times you share will be full of joyful surprises.

8. High maintenance or low maintenance? Remember, high maintenance has caused the crash of many a fine railroad. Find a woman who demands little and enjoys the simple things. My wife thinks going to a fast food restaurant is a grand treat! She's just easy to please!

Good luck to you in your relationships. As mentioned above, "To thy own self be true." Add to that, "It is better to dwell alone in peace on the corner of the roof top than to remain in a house with a contentious woman." (guess where that's from)

If all else fails, get a divorce and sell her wedding dress on eBay: Wedding Dress Auction <==This is hilarious! [(-D]

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Posted by rolleiman on Friday, January 27, 2006 9:25 AM
QUOTE: Originally posted by dragenrider

If all else fails, get a divorce and sell her wedding dress on eBay: Wedding Dress Auction <==This is hilarious! [(-D]


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Posted by Anonymous on Friday, January 27, 2006 10:29 AM
I came to this thread late. So I apologize in advance if something is already said.

I dont know the particulars but it is better to live in harmony with a loved one (And with trains) than to have a fight everytime trains are "Present" either in converstation, doing workbench or actually run trains.

My spouse does not really "Do" trains but I warned her while we're dating that there will be trains in the house because it is good for me to have a hobby.

Her response "Better trains than ports and taverns" So that got settled.

But later on I discovered that the amount of money I can spend is dependant on her tolerance. If I bring in something new and act like a teen in love for a few days with it I had better do something that is good for her such as a dinner or extra little things around that eases her life for a time.

There is balance in life in everything, but I think you will have to cut this Lady and let her go find someone else to enslave.
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Posted by jfugate on Friday, January 27, 2006 12:05 PM
I just want to add to the posts that say it's possible to find a good woman if you are willing to take your time looking and you look in the right places (found mine in church).

We're going on 31 years of marriage now and going in she knew all about the trains and we even railfanned some while courting. Although she's not a model railroader as such, she likes going to conventions with me and has learned enough about the hobby that I can ask her opinion on something and it will be as insightful as any modeler's opinion. Her favorite part of the hobby is scenery and she's even helped me build scenery over the years.

But it's a two way street. I try to learn about the hobbies that interest her and share in her interests too. As for the money issue, I learned early in our marriage that if she handled the money things would be more peaceful in the household. We both agree on the budget each payday, and the budget includes a "mad money" allotment for each of us that we can use any way we like, no questions asked.

You need a woman who recoginizes the value of the hobby to your own well being. When I get cranky, my wife tells me: "I think you need to go work on your trains for a while ...". And she's right. I'm generally in a much better mood after doing trains. [swg]

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Posted by andrechapelon on Friday, January 27, 2006 12:13 PM
QUOTE: Originally posted by jfugate

I just want to add to the posts that say it's possible to find a good woman if you are willing to take your time looking and you look in the right places (found mine in church).

We're going on 31 years of marriage now and going in my wife knew all about the trains and we even railfanned some while courting. Although she's not model railroader as such, she likes going to conventions with me and has learned enough about the hobby that I can ask her opinion on something and it will be as good as any modeler's opinion. Her favorite part of the hobby is scenery and she's even helped me build scenery over the years.

But it's a two way street. I try to learn about the hobbies that interest her and share in her interests too. As for the money issue, I learned early in our marriage that if she handled the money things would be more peaceful in the household. We both agree on the budget each payday, and the budget includes a "mad money" allotment for each of us that we can use any way we like, no questions asked.

You need a woman who recoginizes the value of the hobby to your own well being. When I get cranky, my wife tells me: "I think you need to go work on your trains for a while ...". And she's right. I'm generally in a much better mood after doing trains. [swg]


Sounds like my situation. My wife handles the day to day finances and I do the long-range financial planning. She's also the one pushing me to build a layout, not to mention getting on my case about "analysis paralysis". She gets on my case quite a bit. [swg]

Andre
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Posted by Tracklayer on Friday, January 27, 2006 6:50 PM
QUOTE: Originally posted by TA462

QUOTE:
I'm not perfect, but she's a super b***h if there ever was one... She's stuck on herself and thinks because she's attractive that she should be worshipped by guys like some kind of goddess and treated like royalty - literally!. Oh well. I kind of figured she was that way in the back of my mind, and from now on will stick with the better class of females like I should have in the first place.

Tracklayer


Dude, you got to treat them like royalty. I wouldn't have my boat, ATV's, my Trans Am, fly in fishing trips with the guys, hunting trips or even my trains if I didn't worship the ground my wife walked on. Its kinda like a two way street, I get to do what ever I want just as long as she knows that if something comes up that she wants to do I'm there, no questions asked. Little things like opening doors, sitting her at a table or rubbing her back after a long day at work really do go far.


First of all, I'm not kissing up to any female in order to get or keep anything... Secondly, if a woman deserves my respect and so forth, she'll get it and a whole lot more, but I am not putting up with a rude, hateful, stuck up little b***h that thinks she's God's gift to the world like the one I've been talking about here. She's always said that she could have her pick of any guy she wanted, so let her go pick her a new one. I wi***he poor b*****d lots of luck because he's going to need it...
I'm not a real warm person, and I don't fall for the sweet talk or illusions that women can create to try and lure a guy in. I've dealt with too many of them, and know all too well how fake they can be in order to get what they want. Because of this you can probably imagine all of the things I've been called in the past because I won't cooperate with them...
Oh well. The point is it's over between Kimberly and I, and I'm not sorry.
And so, once again the search is on for the future Mrs. Tracklayer...

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Posted by selector on Friday, January 27, 2006 7:42 PM
The song goes, "You gotta give a little, take a little, let you poor heart break a little, that's the story, that's the GLORY of Love."

When you can agree with that, mon ami, you will find yourself looking for the future Mrs. Tracklayer as a thing done. I'm not saying you were wrong to dump this queen, but at some point, you may have to give-in one time more than you think you can stomach in order for her to feel that she really has your commitment.

Things that are too rigid in Nature get broken.
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Posted by Tracklayer on Friday, January 27, 2006 8:24 PM
QUOTE: Originally posted by selector

The song goes, "You gotta give a little, take a little, let you poor heart break a little, that's the story, that's the GLORY of Love."

When you can agree with that, mon ami, you will find yourself looking for the future Mrs. Tracklayer as a thing done. I'm not saying you were wrong to dump this queen, but at some point, you may have to give-in one time more than you think you can stomach in order for her to feel that she really has your commitment.

Things that are too rigid in Nature get broken.


Hello selector.

Thanks for the wise words, but the fact is I've had about enough of women and their silly crap!. I've grown too cold and too set in my ways to actually ever get married or get along with a girl for any length of time anymore. I think I'll just build a cabin way out in the middle of the woods and live out my life as a hermit. If anything, I might be willing to hook up with a girl that's just looking to shack up, but nothing more...

I think it would be best if this topic ended right here.

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Posted by rolleiman on Friday, January 27, 2006 8:25 PM
QUOTE: Originally posted by selector

The song goes, "You gotta give a little, take a little, let you poor heart break a little, that's the story, that's the GLORY of Love."

When you can agree with that, mon ami, you will find yourself looking for the future Mrs. Tracklayer as a thing done. I'm not saying you were wrong to dump this queen, but at some point, you may have to give-in one time more than you think you can stomach in order for her to feel that she really has your commitment.

Things that are too rigid in Nature get broken.


There's a HHHHHHHHHHUGE difference between the Give / Take and handing her the jewels (if you know what I mean) to put into the food processor.. Get stuck with a super B and that's exactly what one will be doing. I'm sure there are a few here who can spin a good yarn about past exeriences with the super B..
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Posted by jecorbett on Friday, January 27, 2006 8:55 PM
Doesn't like MR, dogs, guns, or the Three Stooges. By my count, that's strike four.
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Posted by Anonymous on Friday, January 27, 2006 9:03 PM
You know women always want men to change themselfs. Never have I ever heard a guy trying to change a female. Men like hobbies, women like the phone. So when I want to work on my layout I call one of her girlfriends, let it ring once hang up. She calls back now I know my GF will be on the phone for hours. Mission Accomplished now I have all the time to enjoy myslef and layout with out the NAGGING.

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