Model railroading a boring hobby ?...

[Anonymous]

The key to finding a good woman for me was to find one that was independent and didn't need to rely on me for anything. I just wanted someone who had similar values. A woman (or man) who respects themself is less likely to tell you all about the things that are wrong with you. You need to divest yourself of this relationship and find someone who isn't trying to change you. You have great hobbies and interests, there are a ton of nice women out there who will respect you for who you are.

[Anonymous]

QUOTE: Originally posted by Davidvd59

I "HAD" a wife who hated trains. Notice the word HAD! When I meet a woman I show her my hobby, watch her expression, and her comments. Woman are a dime a dozen, finding one you are really compatitible with is another story.

Very very very true. Im in that same vote too. It is very hard to find someone who is interested in Trains and Model Railroading.

[csmith9474]

My wife likes our hobby and has a genuine interest. She wanted to get into garden railroading, but her current employer will not allow that where we live.

[Anonymous]

Doesnt sound like a girl i would be interested in for to long.

Steve

[steamage]

My first wife said, "Its ether ME or the TRAINS!" Second wife, no complaints.

[AggroJones]

QUOTE: Originally posted by Tracklayer

QUOTE: Originally posted by Davidvd59

I "HAD" a wife who hated trains. Notice the word HAD! When I meet a woman I show her my hobby, watch her expression, and her comments. Woman are a dime a dozen, finding one you are really compatitible with is another story.

I had one about five years ago named Jennifer that I now very much regret not hanging onto... She wasn't what you might call a real attractive girl, but she had a heart of gold and thought I hung the moon. She was four years younger than me, tall, thin, dark headed and needed braces really bad. At the time, I didn't take her seriously, and gave her a bad time about her looks. Finally after several months, she got sick of being picked on by me all the time and stopped coming around. I never told anyone, but I really missed her for a long time, and wanted to tell her how sorry I was for being a jerk, but my pride wouldn't let me. Live and learn, live and learn, live and learn...

Tracklayer

Is there any way to get her back? Or is it too late....

[Anonymous]

Tracklayer without looking at your Bio and just reading your post.I thought you where some teenager between 15 &17. But 42 and putting this S*** on here, you need to get a F****** life! You guy's called On30 a moron for posting that photo in man V train! Whats this s*** ,call Dr.Phil!

[railroadyoshi]

Tracklayer, sounds a lot like mental abuse actually. It seems she was trying to wear you down and chip away at your self esteem. Then she could take advantage of you.

Glad you got out.

[daveR1193]

A person I can't stand is a person that doesn't like trains or dogs. I mean who wouldn't like trains! The nerves of some people!!!!![:(!][:(!][:(!][:(!]

[Anonymous]

You're a boy.....she's a girl...you got nothing in common anyway!

[PennsyHoosier]

The old Latin phrase comes to mind: de gustibus non est diputandum--you can't argue with taste. Each of us has our own like and dislikes. My wife is no great model railroader, but she appreciates my love of it. She is also a very good critic about what works or doesn't work and can offer it in a constructive way. So it works out well for us all the way around.

I may indeed be an old fart--not boring though. [:D]

[Anonymous]

Ever heard of a BIMBO. Still she's human so don't be too hard on her!

[Anonymous]

Doesn't like Trains or Dogs- sorry but, dump her if she's going to be that way. As
BNSFrailfan said -at least we men HAVE a hobby.

[edkowal]

Insulting another person's interests is just an easy way of saying they don't want to go out with that person anymore. Some people don't have the maturity to say things squarely, so they take easier methods to try to achieve the same result.

-Ed

[Todd McWilliam]

Tracklayer, don't give up! I dated several girls who thought I was a dork for modelrailroading. I met my wife and she loves trains. She is 21 tan blond and thin and very pretty. She bought me a Gensesis SD70MAC recently and she has learned her trains. Yes we have other interest, like we go workout at the gym daily, she like to go to movies every weekend and yes I have to do a lot of stuff that sucks, but to be married to someone who thinks model railroading is cool and supports it is great. Don't give up, she is out there. I met a girl at work a month ago who told me that she loves trains, and thinks they are neat. If I was not married she could have been a possible date. [:D]

[Tracklayer]

QUOTE: Originally posted by Todd McWilliam

Tracklayer, don't give up! I dated several girls who thought I was a dork for modelrailroading. I met my wife and she loves trains. She is 21 tan blond and thin and very pretty. She bought me a Gensesis SD70MAC recently and she has learned her trains. Yes we have other interest, like we go workout at the gym daily, she like to go to movies every weekend and yes I have to do a lot of stuff that sucks, but to be married to someone who thinks model railroading is cool and supports it is great. Don't give up, she is out there. I met a girl at work a month ago who told me that she loves trains, and thinks they are neat. If I was not married she could have been a possible date. [:D]

Oh, I'm not giving up, just getting wiser. If I'd married my first girlfriend Tammy years ago, I could have avoided all the **** I've been through with women. But no, I had my whole life ahead of me, and what fun it's been...

Tracklayer

By the way. I haven't forgotten the "drama queen" remark from a while back Tobb... Remind me to get even with you one of these days. ([;)])

[talon104]

lake amistad is ok down here if your close enough[;)] LOL , there are planty more out there Tracklayer! just gotta have faith.
Chris

[tstage]

Model railroading a boring hobby? Only when you have to drill holes...

Tom

[jeffers_mz]

She's right, it's boring.

To watch without involvement.

So is chess, shopping, putting on makeup. The key here is how perceptive this lady is. If she can recognize that many activities are boring to watch, and that her benefit is either indirect, in that you are happier with the hobby than without it, or else she can benefit by becoming activel;y involved, she may be a keeper.

If she is not perceptive enough to understand such fine points, then you two may be better off as friends.

Either way, I've made enough enemies in my 45 odd years. In any similar situation, I'd make it plain that as long as she's raising significant (to her anyway) reservations about your suitability as a partner, that I was keeping my eyes open towards alternative relationships, and that she was free to do the same. If any of that was unacceptable to her, then all that followed would be her decision and her decision alone.

Fangs are for children. Adults cover cold steel with velvet. Viscious anger is a product of multiple opposing forces acting on a single body. One aspect of maturity is the ability to recognize opposing forces, and then making either a concious decision to live with and manage them, or else to choose one and avoid the other. You can wait till your 75 to find a woman who's learned to manage all her personal issues, or you can accept less than perfection, and grow old with someone else who's trying, but without a realistic self assessment on both sides of the relationship, I believe it is mathematically unworkable. That doesn't mean I impose my theory on others, just that I know what I choose, and others need to decide if what I need works for them or not, leaving them free to choose for themselves.

[Anonymous]

Time to find a new girl.

QUOTE: Originally posted by Tracklayer

I was told today by a girl that I've been interested in for a while now that model railroading was one of the most boring hobbies on earth, and that we (model railroaders) go to so much trouble and expense just so we can sit and watch our trains go around and around the track... She said she could think of a lot of better ways to spend her time (yea, like at the mall blowing money shopping!...). She doesn't like my dogs, guns or the Three Stooges either... I just wonder what kind of guy she's looking for - if a guy at all... (Sorry, but I couldn't resist saying that.) It's too bad though because she's really cute.
Oh well. There's plenty more fish in the sea.

Tracklayer

[MAbruce]

Wow, all this discussion over what women think of model railroading. Who would have thought something like this would strike such a nerve here? [:p]

QUOTE: She said her dad was a model railroader when she was a kid, and that he spent all his time messing with his trains and layout, but little or no time with the family.

And that folks is the core of the issue. In my experiences, if you really want to size up a woman, then concentrate on how her relationship was/is with her dad. If it was bad, then chances are she’s going to have a hard time with relationships. Dad’s can do a lot of damage to their daughters and sometimes never know it. So if you have daughters, please PAY ATTENTION TO THEM.

QUOTE: Her name's Kimberly, she's 37, is divorced, has two kids (a boy and girl 7 and 10), works at a local bank, is very attractive and has longer fangs than any vampire I've ever seen if you know what I mean...

There’s a lot of baggage there Tracklayer. Not saying it couldn’t work, but don’t fool yourself about the challenges. She can be knock-down gorgeous with two little angels for kids, but there’s going to be a lot of work ahead of you. Think carefully.

Okay, times up. The MRR relationship therapist has to move onto another appointment now, so that will be $250 which can be payable by credit card. [:D][:D][(-D]

Well, good luck Tracklayer.

[SSW9389]

Tracklayer don't force a wrong situation. Women who are into things railroad related do exist. Go here http://www.geocities.com/railfan_girlfriend/ for a good read.


P. S. I'm the guy from Kentucky in the Comments section.

[cwclark]

don't like trains?...dump her first chance you get!...compatability is the name of the game and if she's not willing...give her the boot....there's an old saying if you stay with her..if momma's not happy...nobody's happy....find a gal that will get into it like you do or at least tolerate it....when i met my wife that was the first thing i got thru to her..i play with trains and if you don't like it, there's the door and don't let it hit you in the rump on your way out...she now understands and i don't hear a peep out of her about my trains even though she doesn't mess with them....chuck

[Anonymous]

I would be more concerned with her not liking my dogs. My dogs are members of my family and need to be accepted just like my son.

[Anonymous]

Boring? What would she rather have her guy do (and at risk of totally getting flamed for this post, I am including myself and certain beloved family members on this list of other perfectly valid activities and I am just trying to make a point)

1) Uncommunicatively watch endless sports or Dukes of Hazzard reruns on TV pausing only to ask for an occasional (or frequent) Yuengling Lager?

2) Spend thousands of dollars for speed parts for a Mustang that uses a fair amount of gas, has bowel-weakening suspension settings, and is pretty much exclusively driven on a daily 48-mile highway round-trip commute, for which the need for customization (or for a Mustang in the first place, for that matter) is pretty much indefensible?

3) Disappear on regular hunting and/or fishing trips, followed by the endless shrink-wrapping of deer bologna, or the inevitable fish guts in the kitchen trash (or laundry tub, or bathtub, or worse)?

Or . . .

4) Engage in a hobby that engages many different skills, including carpentry, computers, art, electric, photography, logic, model building, etc. etc., which can be done for little cost if you do it right, and does not pose significant risk to life and limb, other than possible inhalation of styrene cement fumes?

My wife is happy to see me excited about my hobby, especially one where I can actually find hobby-related "stuff" in the crafts stores she frequents.

By the way, I have discovered that the major craft stores carry latex mold making compound, casting resin, and a host of other things - and they also publish 40 and 50% of coupons. Go with your wives next time (a good cover for your masculinity, especially if you're pushing the kid around in the cart while she shops, I have found) . . . but you may have to fight her over the coupons.

[Anonymous]

QUOTE: Originally posted by Tukaram

You're a boy.....she's a girl...you got nothing in common anyway!

LMFAO. But, its so simple and true.

Males and females are two different creatures, and I wouldn' want it any other way!!! Its fun.

But, she should respect, and support, what you do in your earned free time. And you respect her's, too.

What matters is, at the end of the day, when you guys are alone together, how do you feel about her then?

Greg

[Anonymous]

QUOTE: Originally posted by scottyg00gt

Boring? What would she rather have her guy do (and at risk of totally getting flamed for this post, I am including myself and certain beloved family members on this list of other perfectly valid activities and I am just trying to make a point)


3) Disappear on regular hunting and/or fishing trips, followed by the endless shrink-wrapping of deer bologna, or the inevitable fish guts in the kitchen trash (or laundry tub, or bathtub, or worse)?

You clean your fish in the bathtub?! I love you, man. Its funny when my sister sits down to take a bath, and gets a catfish spine in her butt.

OK...I'll start it off .........You Just Might be a Redneck If ..........

You bring a can of beer in with you on a job interview.

Greg

[tstage]

MAbruce has pretty much hit the nail on the head. You can see where her "resentment" for MRRing comes from and why she feels so opposed to it. That may also cause her to nitpick and criticize other's "faults" further. Mark, she may be cute but...it's better to have a relationship with someone who is "not-as-attractive" and well-balanced than with someone who is "drop-dead gorgeous" but has issues.

There's a vast difference between "cute" and "beautiful". Cute usually signifies the outward appearance. Beautiful, on the other hand, CAN be that...but goes further and reflects the inner qualities of the person.

I've met women who were, by all definition, "attractive" on the outside but they were "ugly" on the inside. In turn, I've met women who were, by the world's standard, "plain" or even "homely" on the outside but had an inner radiance and beauty that outshined and overwhelmed their "shortcomings" to make them attractive. (Does that make sense?)

My wife is an attractive women. In all honesty, I have met women who are "prettier" than my wife. BUT...very FEW outshine her beauty.

The outside of a person will fade over time. It's the beauty on the inside that REALLY counts and what you should be attracted to. If your relationships are only based on the outward appearance, you'll eventually be disappointed "because of time".

Mark, I'm going to cut you a break and only charge you 1/2 what MAbruce charges for consultation. [:)]

Okay, back to trains...

Tom

[Anonymous]

Not that this is the place of relationship advice, but any woman worth getting and keeping had better be more than alright with your hobbies and other likes. If she isn't, she might think she can change you, and in the end either you change and give up those things, or you end of going your separate ways. Eitherway it's a bad ending.

Trevor

[davekelly]

Wonder if the NMRA can come up NRMA standards for significant others. That way we will know if they are compatible or not lol.

There are somethings that one's significant other does not love as much as we do - be it pets, job, hobbies, movies - whatever. That's what compromise is all about. It is disturbing when a significant other puts down something one really likes. This isn't compromise. If she is hostile towards it now, wait until you want to get someting that is somewhat exspenive.