John sorry for your family's loss. Rubby is a new word to me. People who go into psychology and psychiatry tend to be a little different. It's a challenge for everyone but some people are incapacitated by grief or thrown into a deep depression. There is a place for seeking mental healthcare.
My wife and I went antiqueing today. I have been in my share of antique stores but there are some big ones containing dozens of dealers. I've seen more antique wood planes today than I ever saw in my life. Plow handles?, axe and all manner of hand tool handles.
The wife bought a Blue Mason jar and one of those things you find in hotels to open your suitcase on.I'm going deer hunting in SC and I found out our local meat processor won't take out of state deer with the bones in it. Deboning a deer is the worst part. Maybe I can get it processed in SC, assuming I get one. It's supposed to be 80 degrees next week. Not good for October rut.
Henry
COB Potomac & Northern
Shenandoah Valley
Afternoon Folks!
Track fiddlerJudy said over coffee this morning, "Its almost like Kelly was there with us, I felt it" I said that's because she was. She wants her sister to be happy. That's all Kelly wants for you now Judy and I know you know that
I have been a widower for 33 years now! My wife passed at the age of 40 from the cure (Bone Marrow Transplant) for Leukemia. I still think about her and my losing her every day! But good rememberances these days outweigh the sadness. I just wish I had gotten on the stick and got myself looking and feeling better about 25 years ago....
My condolences and prayers for all who have experienced recent (or not so recent) loss of a loved one!
73
Ray Seneca Lake, Ontario, and Western R.R. (S.L.O.&W.) in HO
We'll get there sooner or later!
So where in Michigan is the diner located? Here in Traverse city fall is about to peak and we had our once a month Great Lakes short line train this week.
ricktrains4824
Double Stackers
The only thing better than watching double stackers roll by clicking over the bridge is eating a double cheeseburger watching them roll by.
I have a place in Prescott Wisconsin where they have a two-story deck overlooking the Lift Bridge where the Double Stackers roll by and they will cook you a double cheeseburger out on that deck for better enjoyment up there
Because of the pandemic, I have not been able to go up there to enjoy that this Summer or Fall, but next year hopefully I will.
Are you kidding me, I still went over there though. I just didn't get up on the deck this year
P.S. I believe the same of your beautiful thought Mr. B
TF
I realized just the other day that my Dad has been gone for fifty years. The minister at the service said something that has always stuck with me. "As long as we remember him, he will still be with us."
I still dream of my parents. Yes, they are still with us.
It takes an iron man to play with a toy iron horse.
Good morning
I just got done reading here. I would like to thank each and every one of you for sharing some saddening experiences and the kind words that went along with them as they helped.
I had tears in my eyes and my Sincere Sympathies for all of you as well.
Judy seams to be doing better today. Perhaps a different gathering this time was more of a celebration of life. More of a remembrance of shared stories and happy memories of Kelly on her 53rd Bithday.
Judy said over coffee this morning, "Its almost like Kelly was there with us, I felt it" I said that's because she was. She wants her sister to be happy. That's all Kelly wants for you now Judy and I know you know that.
I see her better this morning. I think yesterday gave her some closure.
Thank you guys for your prayers and support.
John
Track fiddlerIf anybody here has any kind of experience with sort of thing, anything you could say to me from experience that would help I would appreciate because I'm about ready to check myself into a Sanitarium.
Sorry, I don't have any advice.
My wife is the youngest of six, she had four sisters and a brother. She lost a sister when she was very young, her brother about 20 years ago, and another sister last year.
However, one event still weighs on her to this day.
Since she was the youngest, she was an aunt several times over by the time she was ten. While she was ten, one of her nephews who was two, died in a household accident. This happened in March of 1968.
To this day, the first week of March is very bad for her. We visit his grave every time we go to Indiana.
Just hang in there with your wife and be thankful you have someone to love.
-Kevin
Living the dream.
Good morning, everyone.
I'm very sorry to hear of your losses of loved ones. It's never easy, but the advice given is the best: time will help heal. The sorrow may never go away, but time will help.
I'm beginning work on my church this morning. I ordered some N church windows from Rail-Scale-Models. I have never used the laser-cut pieces before.
I know some of you have bad experiences with the post office. I ordered the windows Sunday. Monday was a holiday, so the windows were shipped Tuesday. The order was at the post office in North Carolina Tuesday morning, and it was out for delivery to me on Thursday afternoon! I live in a rural area of Nebraska, and yet it took only two days to go from North Carolina to my home mail box in Nebraska. It was sent by regular mail. That's pretty amazing!
Have a good Friday, everyone.
York1 John
Good Morning
A new hard drive is being shipped to us for the iMac. I'm still using the iPhone for internet, but very little. I am busy with other stuff.
TF ... Prayers continue for your family.
Ed and Dave... it is good of you to share your stories with TF. Reading them brings tears to my eyes.
hopefully I can catch up with everybody later.
GARRY
HEARTLAND DIVISION, CB&Q RR
EVERYWHERE LOST; WE HUSTLE OUR CABOOSE FOR YOU
Well said,Ed.
My daughter often says "Only knocked sideways, never backwards."
David
To the world you are someone. To someone you are the world
I cannot afford the luxury of a negative thought
Well said Ed.
I'm sorry for your losses.
Dave
I'm just a dude with a bad back having a lot of fun with model trains, and finally building a layout!
I wish there were some comforting words to pass along, John. Dealing with loss is never the same experience no matter how many times you go through it.
I learned the hard way on Feb. 2, 1986. My first wife, Sandi, died of a cerebral hemorrhage at only 27 years old. We had two young boys and two foster children at the time. I was devastated. Talk about having the rug pulled out from under you!
Fortunately, I kept a level head and I had Sandi's sister, Cindy, close by that we leaned on eachother often to get us through. I just saw Cindy today and we still talk about that day 34 years ago. Never does a day go by that I'm not reminded of it or fondly recall the wonderful times with Sandi.
Some people stayed away from me for months. They just didn't know what to say. Other people were so helpful it was like an answer to a prayer. Years later some people explained that they just didn't know how to react. I understood, of course.
It is said what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. I guess that's true when taken in the right context. I remarried way too soon, but I felt too pressured with the kids "needing" a mom and all. That didn't work out but since 2005 I've had Dee Ann by my side. She's had losses of her own and we can share this silent, shared understanding between us. We are excellent together.
Next week will be the first anniversary of the passing of my middle sister, Linda. I plan to get together with my older sister and we're going to scatter Linda's ashes here at my "Angel's Gate" memorial garden and have a bit of a remembrance.
If you let it eat away at you it will consume you. Somehow you have to find the strength to sort out the sorrow from the joy and balance everything in its place.
Remember the joy, embrace the sorrow and carry on as though your missing loved one is right on your shoulder cheering you on —
Good luck, Ed
Thanks John,
And I have to come back to say
I am so sorry for the loss of your eldest son Dave
All losses are a painful tragedy I couldn't even imagine losing my son Jeremy
My heart goes out to you Dave
And thank you for your kind thoughts
Thanks Dave that did help.
Just hearing something from somebody else through all this does help.
Even Uncle Butchie the husband of Kelly today was hard. I gave him a big hug and had him cry on my shoulder, it's hard, it's just hard.
Thank you. Any outside support kind of helps, it's been a tough road here
Track fiddlerIf anybody here has any kind of experience with sort of thing, anything you could say to me from experience that would help I would appreciate because I'm about ready to check myself into a Sanitarium. Judy has been a mess since June. She just can't let go of her little sister and because she's such a mess, I'm really a mess these days.
Hi TF,
Dianne and I lost our eldest son suddenly in August of 2005. There are no magic words that will make the pain go away immediately, believe me. If it worked that way we wouldn't be human.
Time is the only cure, and it is only ever a partial cure. Dianne was inconsolable after Glenn's death. All I could do for her was to hold her while she cried and listen to her. It was more than a year before things settled down.
Judy needs your patience and full support. As you have already discovered, that's not easy to do, but I believe it is essential. You will find yourself taking a whole lot of deep breaths.
We did try counselling but that was a disaster. The 'counsellor' was absolutely useless. I think he was drinking vodka out of his coffee cup. He certainly looked like a rubby. I'm not saying that all counsellors are bad, and trying it might offer some relief, but if you are not comfortable with them from the start, then get out fast.
Time to call on your inner strength.
Sorry I can't offer a better solution.
It was a trying day guys.
If anybody here has any kind of experience with sort of thing, anything you could say to me from experience that would help I would appreciate because I'm about ready to check myself into a Sanitarium.
Judy has been a mess since June. She just can't let go of her little sister and because she's such a mess, I'm really a mess these days.
Thanks for your support in advance
Kelly's birthday party at the graveyard today
It was good. Family and friends and socialization was nice for a change.
Look at my little CC with auntie Judy in the leaves! Isn't she beautiful? God I love her! She is such a happy little girl
At dusk we all went to Minnehaha Falls. Kelly's favorite place, she always loved to go there. We all threw the flowers over the bridge to watch them go down the waterfalls
My Crape Myrtels dropped their leaves this week. These are one of the very few trees that lose their foliage in Autumn in South Florida.
They never bloomed this year. The flower pods are still on the branches unopened.
I trimmed my Royal Poinciana for a couple of hours today. It looks a lot better, but I need to spend some more time on it next week.
Poster Hogger!
It's about 15 minutes till rack time.
I just wanted to share I strolled out to the stoop to enjoy the crisp cool fall evening air.
A great horned owl was whoing. I've been here seven years and never heard a great horned owl whoing here.
It was a beautiful sound and I really enjoyed it. I have not heard a great horned owl since I lived up in the Kabetogama State Forest
Some things get a little more complicated. My brother and I talked the other night about how we treked back to the interior Lakes in Voyageurs National Park to camp out when we lived up there. Apparently they changed the name of Johnson Lake to Beast Lake since then and there is a reason for that.
Both my brother and I have stories but only sounds in the night that go along with this. Those sounds in the night we're very eerie but better described as bone-chilling, the thrill that went along with it was even better.
We are planning a trip to Portage back to Beast Lake next spring. The curiosity is getting the best of both of us
Remember when you learned there's no such things as monsters in the closet or under your bed but you still needed to believe in a monster somewhere else?
I still like to believe in a good Monster and still wish to find one
gmpullman Lawyers have a practice, Doctors also have a practice, perhaps bridge designers should be given the same moniker?
Lawyers have a practice, Doctors also have a practice, perhaps bridge designers should be given the same moniker?
Indeed!
I enjoyed that one Ed.
I sure wish I had my credentials to start my bridge practice
I don't have a piece of paper saying anyting and do not have a pencil protector in my shirt pocket but I think I could do a much better job than a lot of these Bridge Builders of the past
I have a saying I use in construction. When in doubt, apply Overkill. Overbuilt things do not fail as underbuilt things do
Good Gosh Yes.
All my dogs understood everything I said to them Ken. Nellie would do that turn your head sideways kind of thing dogs always do in a bit of confusion processing what I just said and then would straighten her head out and smile at me because she just got it.
Oh man the stories I could tell about my dogs!
But the most impressive thing I ever seen. Blue Heelers, and I guess there's Red Heelers too. A hybrid Australian sheep dog brush wolf breed of some kind.
These dogs are extremely intelligent. My buddy Eric had one and they are a one-man dog. They pick who they prefer and stick with them like loyal glue.
This roofer kitty corner from my house and his laborer were doing my neighbors roof. The roofer yelled down to his dog which was a Blue Heeler and said go to my toolbox and get my big hammer.
I'm sitting on my porch watching in amazement. This dog goes over to this Big Tool Box and flips it open with his paw, grabs a hammer, climbs up the ladder walks across the roof and drops the hammer.
The roofer says, No I need my 22 oz hammer.
The dog picks up the hammer, backs down the ladder, goes to the toolbox, drops the smaller hammer, crabs the bigger hammer and brings it up to him.
I kid you not Kids, It was the darndest thing I ever seen in my life, That was one intelligent dog!
And all you could see, all he wanted to do was please his master
I'm usually not one to fall for sappy-type movies but I really enjoyed A Dog's Journey (2019)
Whoah! That put me at the top of the page! Pet treats for all the critters and "Open Bar" from now 'til the well runs dry!
Cheers
Regards, Ed
Evenin' Folks!
CNCharlieKen, dogs can often understand a kot of words. If we ask Robbie if he would like some Cheerios he runs to the cupboard where we keep them. For a cookie he goes to spot where they are. He knows at least 300 words.
Yep! Not only dogs, but many other animals as well. One of my sons doggies (who has a serious overbite), if my SIL looks at him and tells him, "I love you". the dog gets very excited and tries to say he loves her. It comes out something like, "why wahve woo", but you can tell he is trying to say it back to her.... He obviously knows what it means. When I was a kid on the farm, I had a cow that was my primary showmanship animal (partner I would say), I could go out to the barn or a field where she was and call her name. She would immediately look around at me. If I told her to come here. She would trot right over and walk up to me. I would put my arm around her neck and she would respond by giving me a hug wrapping her neck around my chest! I could tell many other stories of being able to say things to the cattle and have them know what I was telling them. Cats also know but are much better at ignoring you!!! LOL
Eveing Diners
Flo, give the gang and I a please, Dirk a dog treat and Robbie some Cheerios?
Charlie He nay be smarter than I think. 4th night in a row I told him I would him give him a treat if he did the poop in our yard, and he did. I know he undertstand a few words. Go Go means haul butt, knows Bedroom, Up, Car and Go Too The Park. Wife and I now spell the word park when we are talking about taking him there.
Smarest dog I have owned was Muff, my first American Eskimo. I swear she understod ever word I said! I use to take to work with me at my first body shop. She usally would lay under my desk like it was her dog house. Garage door where open and she would go out on her own to take care of things and then come back in and go to my offices.
One day I saw her go out and then I had to talk with a coustomer, never saw her come back in? Got worried, I was on 17th street downtown Indy and it was a busy street! Yelled Muff, your late (tell her she'd late she come running) and she came running out of the offices toward me.
Told her Never mind go back to the offices. I be danged, she turn right around and whent back too my offices?
Ed Maybe be you should try a different way of getting treats?
Later Ken and Dirk says Ed silly daddy Woof, Woof!
I hate Rust
Mr B know this, but others don't, the Chesapeake bridge is 2 separate bridges. An east bound 2 lane bridge and and a west bound 3 lane bridge, except sometimes they run one lane east bound on the west bound span.What could possibly go wrong?I know people who are afraid to cross the bridge and you can call the transportation police and they will drive you across the bridge.I also had a former colleague, who, when they were building the bridge, (It's 5 miles long) walked across the bridge, under construction, to get to the other side to ask for a job working on the bridge.
Thanks for the hear aid device. A friend tells me all the doctors he knows, goes to Costco for their hearing aids. I've heard some people pay a couple thousand dollars elsewhere. It's not for me, I'm Mumbles from Dick Tracy. People who mumble can understand other mumblers.
Rick, thanks for reporting the problem. A lot of people just post the video and forget it.
I used to live across the street from what are now B&M commuter tracks. At the time, there were occasionally freights, too. One night, I watched as some yahoo crashed through the crossing gate, destroying it, and just kept going. I immediately called 911, as I figured the local police could be on the scene first.
Good afternoon all.
Zoe - A nice Coke float please. Thanks.
Neat bridge and train pics all.
Congrats on the healthy pups Brent.
Weather - Defenitely cooler now. Wet this afternoon, but we need the rain. We are now in a drought watch here. Wind has ripped most of the leaves out in my area.
Trains - Just a few smaller modelling projects right now. Did catch the Reading Heritage unit on NS 22K this week.
Reading 1067 on 22K through North East Pa. by Richard Woodworth, on Flickr" alt="Reading 22K" />
Got quite the scare with this train though, as they had dragging equipment slam into the nearby grade crossing. Seems a railing on a well car was not quite in the right place.
Damaged Well Car by Richard Woodworth, on Flickr" alt="Well Car Damage" />
Yes, I did contact the RR Police department to report it.
The debris strike is at approxamately 1:10 in the following video. (Well, the video will follow this if I did it right.....)
While my video camera was rolling, I was further back from the train. (Had to leave the video camera closer to the car to keep the wind from knocking it over.) Even though I leave a wide buffer between myself and trains, this one got a bit wider berth after the debris strike!
Time to start dinner (Burgers & Fries from home.) so I will head out.
Hope all are well, and all enjoy the evening!
Ricky W.
HO scale Proto-freelancer.
My Railroad rules:
1: It's my railroad, my rules.
2: It's for having fun and enjoyment.
3: Any objections, consult above rules.
Good afternoon from the Eastern edge of the largest ocean on earth where it is a15c, warm, dry O/C day.
Speaking of crossing a bridge that rocks and rolls, for years I crossed the Lions Gate Bridge on my bike that I rode to work. Trucks are not allowed on the bridge and a city bus was the largest beast you would see crossing it. When a bus went by and you were on a bike it was a little unsettling as the railing was not as high for a cyclist as I would have liked and the bridge really shook as the bus passed.
When I was working on the airport we could be out on the ramp for hours with no access to a washroom as we would often be in a far off corner of the airport away from prying eyes. Driving around the perimeter to a washroom could be several kms and take a lot of time. When it was below freezing and there was a 30-knot wind blowing the guys could make some interesting artwork on the 12' chain link fence that surrounded the airport as things could freeze quickly sometimes. The problem was made worse by the endless coffee and food coming from Tim Hortons out to us. I remember once we had this cute girl join the team that stood no more than 5' she had to use the washroom for more than a pee and was in panic mode. I said follow me, I took her into the belly of the plane and up two floors to the toilet right behind the flight deck (it was a 747). You never saw a more relieved (in more ways than one) person in your life. It only had one toilet, she just didn't know where to look.
Puppies are gaining weight and thriving. People are being quite obnoxious about wanting to visit in this pandemic. The wife normally will not let anyone visit until they are two weeks old anyway incase they bring disease from their own mutts, but she has been really running a tight ship when it comes to people coming to the house.
Mike, I like the fact that when the diner visits different places we include things about the area that is not RR related. You can never learn too much about a place.
Ken, using reward training is what my wife does, our youngest is 22 months and does amazing things. With being housebound this one has had much more training than usual and would make a good movie dog.
I like the hood ornament on this one.
I am uninspired today as every time I go to do something someone wants me to do something else. I just remember how much I miss them all when the house is empty so all is good.
All the best to all
Brent
"All of the world's problems are the result of the difference between how we think and how the world works."
The Silver Bridge crossing the Ohio River is another famous bridge disaster:
If it was made by man ...
Cheers, Ed
dti406 I never liked driving over that bridge when they closed the two outer lanes for maintenance
I never liked driving over that bridge when they closed the two outer lanes for maintenance
Speaking of bridges, your statement here Rick reminded me of the collapse of the 35W bridge in Minneapolis over the Mississippi.
I don't know what Engineers were in charge of that project but they certainly overlooked some things they shouldn't have.
Number one it was already determined the steel in that bridge was half the thickness of what it should have been. Number two a lot of the gusset plates were so rusted through they should have been replaced before any maintenance was done on the upper deck. Number three they removed both outer lane decks greatly compromising its stability. It made no sense, even I would know better than doing something like that.
I remember traveling over it when this maintenance was going on and how the bridge would shake and wiggle when cement trucks and semis would stop as the traffic was always stop-and-go during the maintenance. It definitely gave me the willies.
I was in shock when it did collapse but I definitely did not wonder why. I had quit going over that bridge after feeling it wiggle and shake as I did not feel safe traveling over it.
Since that disaster they replaced all the bridges around here that were built like that.