Model railroading a boring hobby ?...

[Anonymous]

I would be more concerned with her not liking my dogs. My dogs are members of my family and need to be accepted just like my son.

[cwclark]

don't like trains?...dump her first chance you get!...compatability is the name of the game and if she's not willing...give her the boot....there's an old saying if you stay with her..if momma's not happy...nobody's happy....find a gal that will get into it like you do or at least tolerate it....when i met my wife that was the first thing i got thru to her..i play with trains and if you don't like it, there's the door and don't let it hit you in the rump on your way out...she now understands and i don't hear a peep out of her about my trains even though she doesn't mess with them....chuck

[SSW9389]

Tracklayer don't force a wrong situation. Women who are into things railroad related do exist. Go here http://www.geocities.com/railfan_girlfriend/ for a good read.


P. S. I'm the guy from Kentucky in the Comments section.

[MAbruce]

Wow, all this discussion over what women think of model railroading. Who would have thought something like this would strike such a nerve here? [:p]

QUOTE: She said her dad was a model railroader when she was a kid, and that he spent all his time messing with his trains and layout, but little or no time with the family.

And that folks is the core of the issue. In my experiences, if you really want to size up a woman, then concentrate on how her relationship was/is with her dad. If it was bad, then chances are she’s going to have a hard time with relationships. Dad’s can do a lot of damage to their daughters and sometimes never know it. So if you have daughters, please PAY ATTENTION TO THEM.

QUOTE: Her name's Kimberly, she's 37, is divorced, has two kids (a boy and girl 7 and 10), works at a local bank, is very attractive and has longer fangs than any vampire I've ever seen if you know what I mean...

There’s a lot of baggage there Tracklayer. Not saying it couldn’t work, but don’t fool yourself about the challenges. She can be knock-down gorgeous with two little angels for kids, but there’s going to be a lot of work ahead of you. Think carefully.

Okay, times up. The MRR relationship therapist has to move onto another appointment now, so that will be $250 which can be payable by credit card. [:D][:D][(-D]

Well, good luck Tracklayer.

[Anonymous]

Time to find a new girl.

QUOTE: Originally posted by Tracklayer

I was told today by a girl that I've been interested in for a while now that model railroading was one of the most boring hobbies on earth, and that we (model railroaders) go to so much trouble and expense just so we can sit and watch our trains go around and around the track... She said she could think of a lot of better ways to spend her time (yea, like at the mall blowing money shopping!...). She doesn't like my dogs, guns or the Three Stooges either... I just wonder what kind of guy she's looking for - if a guy at all... (Sorry, but I couldn't resist saying that.) It's too bad though because she's really cute.
Oh well. There's plenty more fish in the sea.

Tracklayer

[jeffers_mz]

She's right, it's boring.

To watch without involvement.

So is chess, shopping, putting on makeup. The key here is how perceptive this lady is. If she can recognize that many activities are boring to watch, and that her benefit is either indirect, in that you are happier with the hobby than without it, or else she can benefit by becoming activel;y involved, she may be a keeper.

If she is not perceptive enough to understand such fine points, then you two may be better off as friends.

Either way, I've made enough enemies in my 45 odd years. In any similar situation, I'd make it plain that as long as she's raising significant (to her anyway) reservations about your suitability as a partner, that I was keeping my eyes open towards alternative relationships, and that she was free to do the same. If any of that was unacceptable to her, then all that followed would be her decision and her decision alone.

Fangs are for children. Adults cover cold steel with velvet. Viscious anger is a product of multiple opposing forces acting on a single body. One aspect of maturity is the ability to recognize opposing forces, and then making either a concious decision to live with and manage them, or else to choose one and avoid the other. You can wait till your 75 to find a woman who's learned to manage all her personal issues, or you can accept less than perfection, and grow old with someone else who's trying, but without a realistic self assessment on both sides of the relationship, I believe it is mathematically unworkable. That doesn't mean I impose my theory on others, just that I know what I choose, and others need to decide if what I need works for them or not, leaving them free to choose for themselves.

[tstage]

Model railroading a boring hobby? Only when you have to drill holes...

Tom

[talon104]

lake amistad is ok down here if your close enough[;)] LOL , there are planty more out there Tracklayer! just gotta have faith.
Chris

[Tracklayer]

QUOTE: Originally posted by Todd McWilliam

Tracklayer, don't give up! I dated several girls who thought I was a dork for modelrailroading. I met my wife and she loves trains. She is 21 tan blond and thin and very pretty. She bought me a Gensesis SD70MAC recently and she has learned her trains. Yes we have other interest, like we go workout at the gym daily, she like to go to movies every weekend and yes I have to do a lot of stuff that sucks, but to be married to someone who thinks model railroading is cool and supports it is great. Don't give up, she is out there. I met a girl at work a month ago who told me that she loves trains, and thinks they are neat. If I was not married she could have been a possible date. [:D]

Oh, I'm not giving up, just getting wiser. If I'd married my first girlfriend Tammy years ago, I could have avoided all the **** I've been through with women. But no, I had my whole life ahead of me, and what fun it's been...

Tracklayer

By the way. I haven't forgotten the "drama queen" remark from a while back Tobb... Remind me to get even with you one of these days. ([;)])

[Todd McWilliam]

Tracklayer, don't give up! I dated several girls who thought I was a dork for modelrailroading. I met my wife and she loves trains. She is 21 tan blond and thin and very pretty. She bought me a Gensesis SD70MAC recently and she has learned her trains. Yes we have other interest, like we go workout at the gym daily, she like to go to movies every weekend and yes I have to do a lot of stuff that sucks, but to be married to someone who thinks model railroading is cool and supports it is great. Don't give up, she is out there. I met a girl at work a month ago who told me that she loves trains, and thinks they are neat. If I was not married she could have been a possible date. [:D]

[edkowal]

Insulting another person's interests is just an easy way of saying they don't want to go out with that person anymore. Some people don't have the maturity to say things squarely, so they take easier methods to try to achieve the same result.

-Ed

[Anonymous]

Doesn't like Trains or Dogs- sorry but, dump her if she's going to be that way. As
BNSFrailfan said -at least we men HAVE a hobby.

[Anonymous]

Ever heard of a BIMBO. Still she's human so don't be too hard on her!

[PennsyHoosier]

The old Latin phrase comes to mind: de gustibus non est diputandum--you can't argue with taste. Each of us has our own like and dislikes. My wife is no great model railroader, but she appreciates my love of it. She is also a very good critic about what works or doesn't work and can offer it in a constructive way. So it works out well for us all the way around.

I may indeed be an old fart--not boring though. [:D]

[Anonymous]

You're a boy.....she's a girl...you got nothing in common anyway!

[daveR1193]

A person I can't stand is a person that doesn't like trains or dogs. I mean who wouldn't like trains! The nerves of some people!!!!![:(!][:(!][:(!][:(!]

[railroadyoshi]

Tracklayer, sounds a lot like mental abuse actually. It seems she was trying to wear you down and chip away at your self esteem. Then she could take advantage of you.

Glad you got out.

[Anonymous]

Tracklayer without looking at your Bio and just reading your post.I thought you where some teenager between 15 &17. But 42 and putting this S*** on here, you need to get a F****** life! You guy's called On30 a moron for posting that photo in man V train! Whats this s*** ,call Dr.Phil!

[AggroJones]

QUOTE: Originally posted by Tracklayer

QUOTE: Originally posted by Davidvd59

I "HAD" a wife who hated trains. Notice the word HAD! When I meet a woman I show her my hobby, watch her expression, and her comments. Woman are a dime a dozen, finding one you are really compatitible with is another story.

I had one about five years ago named Jennifer that I now very much regret not hanging onto... She wasn't what you might call a real attractive girl, but she had a heart of gold and thought I hung the moon. She was four years younger than me, tall, thin, dark headed and needed braces really bad. At the time, I didn't take her seriously, and gave her a bad time about her looks. Finally after several months, she got sick of being picked on by me all the time and stopped coming around. I never told anyone, but I really missed her for a long time, and wanted to tell her how sorry I was for being a jerk, but my pride wouldn't let me. Live and learn, live and learn, live and learn...

Tracklayer

Is there any way to get her back? Or is it too late....

[steamage]

My first wife said, "Its ether ME or the TRAINS!" Second wife, no complaints.

[Anonymous]

Doesnt sound like a girl i would be interested in for to long.

Steve

[csmith9474]

My wife likes our hobby and has a genuine interest. She wanted to get into garden railroading, but her current employer will not allow that where we live.

[Anonymous]

QUOTE: Originally posted by Davidvd59

I "HAD" a wife who hated trains. Notice the word HAD! When I meet a woman I show her my hobby, watch her expression, and her comments. Woman are a dime a dozen, finding one you are really compatitible with is another story.

Very very very true. Im in that same vote too. It is very hard to find someone who is interested in Trains and Model Railroading.

[Anonymous]

The key to finding a good woman for me was to find one that was independent and didn't need to rely on me for anything. I just wanted someone who had similar values. A woman (or man) who respects themself is less likely to tell you all about the things that are wrong with you. You need to divest yourself of this relationship and find someone who isn't trying to change you. You have great hobbies and interests, there are a ton of nice women out there who will respect you for who you are.

[brothaslide]

A lot of people think model trains are boring - plus a lot of other hobbies. My wife isn't really interested in model trains but encourages me with it becuase she knows that I enjoy it. She is into scrapbooking and I don't find it that interesting but she enjoys it so I encourage her in her hobby.

[waltersrails]

my girlfriend didn't like the hobby at first but she's warming up to the hobby. She should we are getting married in a few years after we finsh college.

[Tracklayer]

QUOTE: Originally posted by Davidvd59

I "HAD" a wife who hated trains. Notice the word HAD! When I meet a woman I show her my hobby, watch her expression, and her comments. Woman are a dime a dozen, finding one you are really compatitible with is another story.

I had one about five years ago named Jennifer that I now very much regret not hanging onto... She wasn't what you might call a real attractive girl, but she had a heart of gold and thought I hung the moon. She was four years younger than me, tall, thin, dark headed and needed braces really bad. At the time, I didn't take her seriously, and gave her a bad time about her looks. Finally after several months, she got sick of being picked on by me all the time and stopped coming around. I never told anyone, but I really missed her for a long time, and wanted to tell her how sorry I was for being a jerk, but my pride wouldn't let me. Live and learn, live and learn, live and learn...

Tracklayer

[Anonymous]

I think lie between a man and his wife is a game. She gets wat she wants and I get my toys. Railroad, guns, Corvette, wood working eqip., you know toys. It's worked for 37 years now, so I'm sticking with it.

If your girl (with baggage) doesn"t want to play, take your loco and go home.

Don [8D]

[SMassey]

How can some one not like chevy trucks and guns? I love both and Bows too and fishing and trains and model railroading and NASCAR and .... well this list is long and my wife is very tolerant of my hobbies. She looks at it this way: I could be going to the bar everynight getting drunk spending all my money drinking it away or be in the back room working on my layout or at my desk building a new model and home safe. Same applied to my R/C car racing only she liked to watch the races so she came with me to the track. This and most other hobbies are expesive but so is her shopping sprees with your credit cards, and they wonder why you get mad at them for that? So get in the chevy put the rifle or bow in the back some food and warm clothes and go hunting and on the way home buy a new loco or 3 and tell her she has to live with it because you bagged a deer and you will have food for the whole winter now (hope she likes deer) and that will save on money so she can go shopping. There compromise!


maybe [:P]

[MisterBeasley]

"This above all: To thine own self be true."

Some people think Shakespeare is boring, too, but there are lots of lessons to be learned. Or, maybe this bar joke is more to your liking:

"Just remember, now matter how cute she is, that the only reason she's even talking with you is some other guy got sick of putting up with her."

So, stick to the trains, guns, dawgs 'n' Stooges. A man can't ask for better friends.