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What happens to your trains when you die?
Posted by Chartiers on Sunday, April 12, 2009 5:02 PM
I'm not trying to be morbid here, but just wondering how many have thought about, or planned for, what's going to happen to their trains if they die?  The question obviously become more relevant the older you get or if you are in bad health.  The answer could be as simple as not caring what they do with your trains and layout as your going to be dead.  But since we tend to put a lot of time, effort and money into our great hobby, I think most of us would like some good to come from our trains when we are gone.  
 
I think what prompted this question was that I seen a neighbor recently die unexpectedly.  Relatives picked over the "good" stuff that they wanted, but I think the vast majority of his hobby and collectable items ended up in the trash which seems a shame.
 
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Posted by twhite on Sunday, April 12, 2009 5:16 PM

They're going with me.  God mentioned that he doesn't have enough good-running brass articulateds for His MR.   He wants me to bring along my Yellowstones.  Evidently St. Francis has dibs on the 2-8-0's:[P]

Actually, to be serious, the MR is going to be split up between my son and grandson and my nephew and his son.  They're all pretty fascinated by the hobby, and they all get along well.  I think they will be able to figure out the disposition without any infighting.   I have a pretty close, mellow family. 

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Posted by pastorbob on Sunday, April 12, 2009 5:27 PM

That is a good question, and being 72 at this point, even though in great health, I have already planned for my demise.  First, I keep pretty detailed records on Excel files including cost and upgrades to equipment.  My wife is computer literate and younger, so she will probably be the one to dispose of them.

Some of my local railroading buddies, one in particular, will be called on my death to get with my wife and the list.  He has one also, but the home one will probably be more up to date.  I told my wife the main concern is the sell the rolling stock and diesels.  Buildings to anyone who wants them and then scrap the rest, track, scenery, deckwork.  There are a few pieces of equipment already spoken for and my wife has that list also.

That is about all I can do to help her.

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Posted by retsignalmtr on Sunday, April 12, 2009 5:36 PM

the only people i know who are into trains are members of my club so i have had a bequest added to my will that if the club is still active when i pass that it all go to the club to do with as they wish.

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Posted by 1train1 on Sunday, April 12, 2009 5:36 PM

I concur with pastorbob keep a somewhat detailed record of your inventory and its estimated worth per item ie rolling stock. locomotive etc.. Put a copy with your will ( updated as neccesary ).Then let your family members know what you want done with them after your demise. If you intend to liquidate them as resources for your family - ask a close fellow model railroader to be the one to dispose of it ( they know the value ).

 

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Posted by Great Western Rwy fan on Sunday, April 12, 2009 5:39 PM

I'm 50 now and in perfect health. Don't drink smoke or take drugs, Not even perscription ones. I plan on living to the age of 125. Hopefully . That may not be a stretch with modern meds and technology.. So with 75 yrs left I like to believe I have time later to decide what happens with my trains. In the meanwhile I will just enjoy them!!

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Posted by Packer on Sunday, April 12, 2009 5:44 PM

Can I come back and answer this in about 50-60 years? (only 19)

All I know is my (insert closest female friend) wouldn't get any of it, unless of course she herself is an MRR. More than likely be given to someone who would want them (I've already given away a few trainsets to younger kids).

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Posted by Packers#1 on Sunday, April 12, 2009 6:07 PM

Well, I'm younger than Vincent, so ask me in 55-65 years (I'm 14)

Probably give them to my kids if they want them, or tell my family "take what you want to remeber me by and sell the rest to someone that'll treat them right"

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Posted by loathar on Sunday, April 12, 2009 6:07 PM

I would like to think somebody, (ANYBODY!) would give them a good home. Odds are they will end up in a landfill.Disapprove It will probably be just me and my brother left at the end and he could care less.

Packer and Packers#1-Tomorrow is NOT a given. You never know when the flying fickle finger of fate may point in your direction.

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Posted by BATMAN on Sunday, April 12, 2009 6:13 PM

 I live in the retirement capital of Canada so I would offer it to a seniors home or activity centre. They should be able to handle a 15 x 24 Ft. layout. If none can be found then anyone who wants to come and take apart the sections and move it can have it. It has been designed as movable but not portable. They would need a five ton truck as the largest section is 6' x 18'. Of course all dibs are off for the "geezers" if any of my kids want it.Big Smile

 

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Posted by IRONROOSTER on Sunday, April 12, 2009 6:23 PM

 I have an extra room in the pyramid for the trains.

 

 

 

Seriously, I need to make a list with prices paid.  But the kids have first dibs, my middle son has expressed some interest so he may get them. Otherwise sell them.

Enjoy

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Posted by Chartiers on Sunday, April 12, 2009 6:26 PM
Some interesting comments so far.  Personally, my son and daughter have no interest in model trains at all, but I do have a cousin on my wife's side that will take the layout and I know she will enjoy it. 
 
What I have done over the last few years is to sell off excess engines, structures and items that were collecting dust in the closet and that I had no plans on using at all.  Jim
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Posted by TMarsh on Sunday, April 12, 2009 6:32 PM

They will probably be broken into tiny pieces by my wife because I probably spent my last few hours with them instead of her.Whistling

Seriously, if grandson still likes trains, he will get them. If not, sold.

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Posted by BerkshireSteam on Sunday, April 12, 2009 6:39 PM

I will be dead, so what happens happens. If I don't like what happens I will simply haunt the people that did it Big Smile

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Posted by jeffrey-wimberly on Sunday, April 12, 2009 7:20 PM

 Ever hear of something called a burn pile? That's where mine would end up. My father thinks trains are just so many useless toys even though his father and grandfather were both in the hobby with Marx and Lionel trains.

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Posted by Packers#1 on Sunday, April 12, 2009 7:35 PM

loathar

Packer and Packers#1-Tomorrow is NOT a given. You never know when the flying fickle finger of fate may point in your direction.

 

OHHH, how well I know that. Look at my signature; and then also a few weeks ago a kid in another middle school in my county collapsed during PE from a too-big heart (I forget his condition) and died later that day. And then a while back another girl was out horseback riding and got bucked.

Yah just never know when you're going, so you can't stay hid in your little shelter.

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Posted by citylimits on Sunday, April 12, 2009 8:18 PM

I think that this is a very topical subject to discuss as many of us here are in the time of our lives when the disposal of our models, and other treasures, are still of some concern to us.

I've seen many older guys dispose of or thin out their collections by gifting to younger folks or by direct sale. On eBay there is evidence of people selling estate lots of model RR collections either by beneficial relatives or second hand dealers.

Most of my stuff, my treasures and the things that make me happy, will just stay on in the house. It will be up to the beneficiaries of my estate to dispose of my stuff as and when they see fit. There is no need for them to rush this as these things don't take up any room that would be otherwise used by my family once I am gone. After a while, I guess the Mrs and our kids will probably arrange for most of my stuff to be sent to a local auction house and be part of one of their regular toy auctions and book auctions as applicable.

My boat and guitars are another thing altogether and probably best left out of this discussion about MRR items.

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Posted by bogp40 on Sunday, April 12, 2009 8:18 PM

Since the unforseen did happen to me with the loss of my wife, you never know when your number is up........

I have talked about this w/ the children, they know that they can count on many great friends of mine/ and thiers from my club. They will see that my extensive collection can be sold off for fair price. Some of those special pieces may be kept by my kids for sentimental reasons. None are into the hobby anymore. They can be Ebayed off, sold to certain member interested and the rest just donated to the club.

Hope this doesn't ever happen or at least too soon. But I have no fear that all my prized pieces will go to good use.

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Posted by Philly Bill on Sunday, April 12, 2009 8:24 PM

As a lawyer I can offer a little input, although I'm not an estate specialist and every state has different rules, blah blah.

Probably NOT a good idea to put item-specific details in the will itself (unless there's some very specific items).  The collection contents can change and you don't want to have to update the will all that often.  A method often used, though, is to have the will make reference to a memorandum that you can update as often as needed, and that list could say who gets what, or set up a method.  for example, the grandkids can take turns picking from the rolling stock.  This can apply to all kinds of collectibles and personal effects.  

Unfortunately, where there's special items, like heirloom jewelry, where family members can each think that their loved one would have wanted them to have it.  (one of those situations in my wife's family has gone on for about 30 years!).  Things situations can bring out the worst in  people, unfortuantely, no matter how good their intentions.  So a clear expression is a good thing.  

It should also be made clear, in the will, assuming there's some money to distribute among the heirs, whether or not there should be an adjustment if one person gets the bulk of the train stuff.  Because the ones that don't want the trains, might think they should get equivalent value some other way. 

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Posted by Flashwave on Sunday, April 12, 2009 9:03 PM

Great Western Rwy fan

I'm 50 now and in perfect health. Don't drink smoke or take drugs, Not even perscription ones. I plan on living to the age of 125. Hopefully . That may not be a stretch with modern meds and technology.. So with 75 yrs left I like to believe I have time later to decide what happens with my trains. In the meanwhile I will just enjoy them!!

 Wrong answer. And I don't want to be morbid either, but I watched my Dad claw his way slowly back from death's door without any of his future planned. All very sudden. DON'T PUT IT OFF. 

That's my spheal.

Oh, and as for me, I'm in the same boat as Packer and Packers. Right now, the stuff goes to the parents, probably Dad, who would I hope keep, display, and use them. Otheriwise, it would all go to the club to be sold.  

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Posted by mobilman44 on Sunday, April 12, 2009 9:54 PM

Hi,

About a year ago I brought up a question similar to this in a posting, and since then have given it a good deal of thought.  I will be 65 next month, and am in pretty good health with regular check-ups, etc.  My Mom is still going strong at 92, but my Dad passed suddenly at 74.

I have a collection of Lionel postwar and a sizeable collection of HO stuff (esp. ATSF locos) of good quality.  I have 4 adult children, and several grandchildren - none of which has any interest in model railroading.  I am a lone wolf MR, and have no close friends in the hobby.

As I have been an avid buyer/seller on Ebay for many years, I would like to think that at some point in the future the Lionel will be auctioned off by me.  As I am currently building a new HO layout, I suspect the HO stuff will be with me for some time - but who knows?

My wife is also an avid Ebayer, and well aware of my trains and stuff and fully realizes that much of it is surely not "junque" - so if I leave before her, I suspect she will handle the disposition fairly well.

Ok, the above is all pretty cold "facts", but there is more to all this.........   I've managed to gather up a lot of "stuff" in my adult years, and would hope that it goes to those who would appreciate it.  We are not only talking model trains here, but also a collection of quality handguns, WWII memorabilia, books, mechanics tools, woodworking tools, coin collection, and other stuff that my wife and my children have no interest in having.  Some of this will be addressed by our Will, but much of it just won't have a "home".  Perhaps someday I'll do like some other older folks I know did, and that is to dispose of their "stuff" while they are still kicking around.

Hey, but in the meantime, I am going to ENJOY my trains - and all the other stuff as well!

Happy Easter to all,

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ENJOY  !

 

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Posted by tomikawaTT on Sunday, April 12, 2009 11:11 PM

Just took one of those, "How long can you expect to live," quizzes, and the result alleges that I should plan for at least 25 more years.  (Darn it!  My target is 28 more...)

No matter.  Whenever my number comes up, my layout and everything on/connected to it will be my personal representative's problem - my personal representative being my closest blood kin still living.  That person will have a current inventory to work with.  Other than that, I'll leave the negotiations to the survivors.  I WILL stipulate that anything not claimed by a family member will be made available to potential buyers.

In all honesty, my collection is worth far more to me than it is likely to be worth to my estate.  I don't consider any part of it to be an investment.  If my personal representative (Arizona-ese for executor) simply dumpsterizes the whole business I won't care, because I won't know.

In the meantime, I intend to enjoy my toys now.  I'll worry about the future when it gets here.

Chuck (Modeling Central Japan in September, 1964)

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Posted by nw2 on Sunday, April 12, 2009 11:11 PM

As it stands now, If my daughter did not want to put the effort into ebaying them.  My wife would have a garage sale probably sell it out at a buck or two each, regardless of what my list says they are worth.

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Posted by andrechapelon on Monday, April 13, 2009 12:53 AM

Kinda reminds me of a song from "Oklahoma!"

To the tune of "Pore Jud Is Dead"

Poor Andre's is dead
Poor Andre's really  dead
All gather round his coffin now and cry
He had a heart of gold
And he wasn't very old
Oh why did such a feller have to die?

Poor Andre's is dead
Poor Andre's really  dead
He's lookin' oh so peaceful and serene
He's all laid out to rest
With his trains acrost his chest
Their wheel treads have never been so clean........

We'll forget the stuff about being a mean ugly fella, a dirty skunk and an ornery pig stealer.

Andre


 

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Posted by MPRR on Monday, April 13, 2009 1:11 AM

  As it stands now, we have only one child, and she is all of 2 1/2 months old. I can't say for sure that she'll be into the trains. Although she does enjoy the occasional Thomas and Friends episode on PBS. But she'd be the first to have my stuff. My wife "plays" a little, but she enjoys building the scenery the most. So I'm thinking when I go that my children will have first dibs, if they choose. If not, they can do what they want with them.... As long as it involves keeping them!!  Wink

  I think they should custom build my casket with a small N-scale oval inside. They could have a solar power photocell panel above ground, say on my headstone, and run a wire down to run the train. Long live trains!!

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Posted by Berk-fan284 on Monday, April 13, 2009 4:30 AM

Assuming I don't miraculously develop social skills and get hitched with kids before my demise I presume it'll get tossed into the garbage or the eventual inheritors/home owners will make the local news about all the "valuable" items acrrued by the reclusive eccentric that lived there when they open the joint up and have it appraised.

 

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Posted by RicHamilton on Monday, April 13, 2009 6:51 AM

Having done the deed for a friend who suddenly passed away, all I can say is keep it neat and organized.  He was in good health but one day wasn't feeling so great so he headed off to the ER.  He spent a few weeks or so in the hospital and then he was gone.  At least in that time he had given his wife some direction to head by getting him to contact a mutual friend who enlisted my help.   

We had a whole layout to remove, found pieces of locos and cars everywhere.  Some boxes were there but most boxes were not.  Brass tenders but no brass locos.  The wokbench was covered in stuff as ours normally are and teh shelves and under the layout was crammed with those bits and bobs 'that we might find a use for someday'.  We also found various bottles of stuff that were not what was on the label. 

That certainly opened my eyes.  Next time you are in your workshop/layout have a look around and have a look to see what someone would have to clean up for your spouse.  Think of all the stuff your spouse may not know about (ie brass, custom built/painted) and at least make a list.   Have a good look at the stuff you accumulated for that time when 'you might find a use for it someday'. 

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Posted by BRAKIE on Monday, April 13, 2009 8:22 AM

Packers#1

Well, I'm younger than Vincent, so ask me in 55-65 years (I'm 14)

Probably give them to my kids if they want them, or tell my family "take what you want to remeber me by and sell the rest to someone that'll treat them right"

 Actually death doesn't have a appointed time..It comes as it will when your limited time is up be it today or 80 years from now...A close friend lost a 16 year old son 2 years ago...

 

 

My son not all that  interested in trains..

My oldest Grandson will keep the hobby alive.He's currently in the USAF and sends high end locomotives and freight cars home..

He will get all of my stuff and my Dad's collection.

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Posted by dknelson on Monday, April 13, 2009 8:45 AM

Have you priced funerals lately?  Who can afford them -- it is just one more expenditure that I am having to put off.   I already spent my funeral money on trains I guess. 

My wife and I have no kids so there goes the most likely destination.  Based on various statements she has made over the years I think it is HIGHLY unlikely that my widowed wife would ever marry a railfan or model railroader if she got married again, so there goes the other likely destination.  But at least she knows some names of guys who buy up trains and sell them at swap meets.

My wife understands the value of at least some pieces in my collection, the brass in particular, and I have also made it clear that many times the problem is people over valuing the trains of their dad or grandfather or uncle which is ironically why they end up in dumpsters because finally the family's patience wears thin after they cannot get their price, which is over inflated. 

Better to sell for pennies on the dollar than dump 'em.  Having cleaned out some estates I know the fatigue factor sets in and after a while you toss rather than think, ooh if I sold that i could make $8 or whatever.  You cease to care.   Trains are hardly the only valuable items that are often tossed when an estate is cleared out. 

The one thing I have tried to impress on my wife is that probably the most valuable items in my collection are certain books -- and that the glossy ones with pretty color pictures are generally far less valuable than the fairly drab all black and white ones.

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Posted by armchair on Monday, April 13, 2009 8:47 AM

 I hate to be a wet blanket here, but from what I've seen in the last two years wasn't pretty when a loved one passed. Greed can be a powerful emotion . I think a current will should be kept in order, no matter what Your age is. That being said, I don't have one Myself . This may seem a morbid topic, but IT IS a part of life. My Wife wouldn't have a clue what to do with all My " stuff ". I want My son to have My guitar collection,My grandson to have some of My trains. My firearm collection could be sold to help My wife out. But I realize without a will these things will go through probate court , then the greedy govt. will get Their hands in the pie. I need to get My will made out, so the things I want to happen may happen, the OP brought up a serious as well as a valulable topic here. Current inventory ? peck,peck,peck.

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