Our hobby spending and our spouses

[shawnee]

 

Answer:  separate checking accounts. 

 

[MisterBeasley]

She goes for "therapeutic massages" now and then.  She even "gave" me a session with her massage therapist for my birthday once, so you can believe it's not that kind of massage.  Anyway, a few months back she saw a new engine, and asked, "What did that cost?" in the traditional scornful tone I'm sure many of you will recognize.

"Two massages," was my answer.  And I haven't heard a peep since.

[secondhandmodeler]

My wife gives me a hard time because she thinks it's a waste of money and time.  She said, " so when you are done with this, what do you have?"  I said, " an interesting, fairly inexpensive form of therapy!"  She reads at least one book a week.  I guarentee you that she won't read all of those books for a second time.  Her books take up as much space, money and time as my trains.  As a lot of people on here have said before, it's a lot cheaper than gambling and chasing women in the bar!   By the way, how often does she use those expensive hand bags.  I'm sure they only go with certain outfits!

[GAPPLEG]

My position is different due to this being a second marriage , she had a job for 30 years and is now retired with a pension,  Anyway we started our second round with the proposition that what's hers is hers and whats mine is mine and never the twain shall meet. We split the household bills and as long as everything gets paid, we buy what we want with our individual monies. It's worked for 18 years. If I were soul provider then it would have to be different , but she makes as much not working as some people get working.

[sfrailfan]

Hey All,

Now to start I have come to understand how my wife thinks and I know why she acts as she does. I have a good relationship with my wife and don't have any gripes with the way things are. BUT...

I was thinking about this after reading a previous post which stated a guy 'had his wife's permission'. to do something. Now I'm not knocking him or anyone. Actually I have found myself in a maybe similar position. I check in with my wife before I buy a diesel. Why? My original reason is because I want to make sure I'm not using $150 that needs to go somewhere else. But now my wife actually does have a 'you spend too much on trains thing' going on. (AVE $100/month)

Now I don't want to bore you with details but I make sure my wife has things she wants as well. ie. expensive designer bags... ect.

Is this common? We aren't rich but I'm not poor (anymore). Is it only the rich guys who aren't questioned?

Let me know.

Dan