HEdward wrote: spectratone wrote: HEdward wrote: Vail and Southwestern RR wrote: Everyone should have a pet bison. Do they use a litter box or do you have to walk them?my friend and I have 6 of them . They will eat out of my hand and let me pet them but I,m not getting in there with them. You would not believe how fast and strong they are. But I would rather be with them then my first wife any day. They don,t smoke, drink, or do drugs and have all their hair and less wrinkles.glenn Fair enough, but do they block the tracks of your garden railway?
spectratone wrote: HEdward wrote: Vail and Southwestern RR wrote: Everyone should have a pet bison. Do they use a litter box or do you have to walk them?my friend and I have 6 of them . They will eat out of my hand and let me pet them but I,m not getting in there with them. You would not believe how fast and strong they are. But I would rather be with them then my first wife any day. They don,t smoke, drink, or do drugs and have all their hair and less wrinkles.glenn
HEdward wrote: Vail and Southwestern RR wrote: Everyone should have a pet bison. Do they use a litter box or do you have to walk them?
Vail and Southwestern RR wrote: Everyone should have a pet bison.
Everyone should have a pet bison.
Do they use a litter box or do you have to walk them?
my friend and I have 6 of them . They will eat out of my hand and let me pet them but I,m not getting in there with them. You would not believe how fast and strong they are. But I would rather be with them then my first wife any day. They don,t smoke, drink, or do drugs and have all their hair and less wrinkles.
glenn
Fair enough, but do they block the tracks of your garden railway?
I wish I had that problem.
***Ryan, that's a great story. Yup, you have a winner wife there for sure.
***Glenn, my wife would rather be out in the pasture with her miniature Zebu cows than around most people anyday. She calls it: getting her "bovine therapy" after working in the ER.
Rob
Chuck Geiger wrote: If my wife of 32 years says "your choo choo's" one more time....TO THE MOON ALICE. She loves that I have a hobby like this, keeps me out of jail.
If my wife of 32 years says "your choo choo's" one more time....TO THE MOON ALICE. She loves that I have a hobby like this, keeps me out of jail.
The phrase shows your age.
It evolved over the years.
Original: "One of these days, Alice... Pow, right to the moon."
Middle of the run: "To the moon, Alice ... To the moon."
Toward the end: "Bang ... zoom!"
lol.
Dave
Lackawanna Route of the Phoebe Snow
WN5L wrote: Years ago when I was married, my ex-wife nagged (cranked actually) all the time about my model railroading. Wasn't spending enough time with her, spending to much money, took up all the living space in the house, etc. She had no concept of reality! I was left with no other choice but to run her off!Nowadays, I'm single and can devote all my time, energy, space, and money to the model railroad. much better, much happier! The problem is : I've met a girl who likes to build scenery (Shes actually pretty good at it!) and likes to railfan the narrow gauge on camping trips to Colorado. She seems to have a concept of reality! She brought up the marriage business the other day. Frankly, I don't know what to do?
Years ago when I was married, my ex-wife nagged (cranked actually) all the time about my model railroading. Wasn't spending enough time with her, spending to much money, took up all the living space in the house, etc. She had no concept of reality! I was left with no other choice but to run her off!
Nowadays, I'm single and can devote all my time, energy, space, and money to the model railroad. much better, much happier!
The problem is : I've met a girl who likes to build scenery (Shes actually pretty good at it!) and likes to railfan the narrow gauge on camping trips to Colorado. She seems to have a concept of reality! She brought up the marriage business the other day. Frankly, I don't know what to do?
If you are going to make your decision based on the advise of "virtual" anonymous friends on a forum, then cut her loose. She deserves someone better. Now: about her phone number......
My wife wasn't too thrilled about my hobby until I somehow incorporated it into family time with my kids. My wife is supportive of my spending more time with the kids, and model railroading allows me to do that. Your wife probably won't be supportive if you take off on your own for long stretches of time...maybe leaving her to fend for herself with the household chores and kids. You should be able to work out a compromise...
You know, reading this post again, I am struck by your contradiction in your statement. You say after "running off your first wife", you could devote all your time, energy, etc. to model railroad. If that is true, why are you meeting new girls who like to build scenery and mention marriage? In all my years of doing marriage counseling, I have met several like you, and the chances of ever making it in marriage are pretty slim. You may think it is funny, but your attitude makes you macho in the eyes of some, but foolish in the eyes of others.
Enjoy your trains, they will be a great comfort in old age.
Bob
Well said, Paster Bob. I obviously don't know anything personally about the OP or some of the other responders, but I was somewhat taken aback by some of the posts in this thread.
In order to avoid the risk of igniting a flame war as best I can, I'll just say that marrying my first (and so far only) wife was the greatest decision I've ever made, and I feel like she was a gift from (fill in your choice of diety or non-diety here; mine is God). That she's been so supportive of my hobby has only made me love her more.
They say that women enter into a marriage hoping to change the man, but men enter into it hoping the woman never changes. The truth is that both parties will need to sacrifice some. But if one party expects the other to make major personality changes in order to make the marriage work, it seems to me that it won't.
Short answer is if your lady doesn't accept your trains now, she never will. If she does now and doesn't expect you to change, she's probably better suited for you. Just help her out a bit and spend as much time with here as you do your trains!
Good luck.
Modeling the Rio Grande Southern First District circa 1938-1946 in HOn3.
When my wife and I started dating I informed her right away that there would trains around the house. That I intended to build a layout and that any house we get would have to have that taken into consideration. She was fine with that, with three stipulations. 1.) I could model whatever era I wanted, so long as the motive power was steam. 2.) She got a circus train, about 2 rings worth. 3.) that our kids would be able to play on the layout with THIER engines and our supervision.
To that end we now have a two ring circus, circus wagons, more steam than I thought I would ever own, and now I want more steam. WE have agreed that any rolling stock or engine (I started into electrics) built beyond 1955 is not going to be knowingly purchased for the layout, and I try and limit it to 1939-1941 but some cars are just too tempting. Cars would generally be from the midwest or midwest lines, with some exceptions, Cattle Cars, tank cars, and chemical cars, and one in 6 box car, flat, refeer and coal cars would be from outside. (I now have a very good inventory of what I have)
Now when we go to train shows or to the hobby stores she is the one that is scouring through the kits and RTR stuff for things that would look good on the layout. Myself it's hmmm, I have a DM&IR engine, need a caboose, didn't find one than I don't need to purchase any thing. My wife, "ohhh this is cute, and so is this and this. Here you go hon, we'll get these and you put them together."
So no I don't think my wife has hindered my hobby at all. I think she had aided and abetted it. Contributed to the reclusiveness of her husband and generally figured out a way that I want to stay home. besides which I like working on the club layout with her. She is a much better landscape designer than I am.
pastorbob wrote: WN5L wrote: Years ago when I was married, my ex-wife nagged (cranked actually) all the time about my model railroading. Wasn't spending enough time with her, spending to much money, took up all the living space in the house, etc. She had no concept of reality! I was left with no other choice but to run her off!Nowadays, I'm single and can devote all my time, energy, space, and money to the model railroad. much better, much happier! The problem is : I've met a girl who likes to build scenery (Shes actually pretty good at it!) and likes to railfan the narrow gauge on camping trips to Colorado. She seems to have a concept of reality! She brought up the marriage business the other day. Frankly, I don't know what to do?You know, reading this post again, I am struck by your contradiction in your statement. You say after "running off your first wife", you could devote all your time, energy, etc. to model railroad. If that is true, why are you meeting new girls who like to build scenery and mention marriage? In all my years of doing marriage counseling, I have met several like you, and the chances of ever making it in marriage are pretty slim. You may think it is funny, but your attitude makes you macho in the eyes of some, but foolish in the eyes of others.Enjoy your trains, they will be a great comfort in old age.Bob
I kinda thought the same thing pastorbob. Some guys mistake macho for "el jerko." A woman's make-up includes time where she needs to be loved, needs to be felt as if she is needed, and needs valuable time spent with her (Time not involving trains every waking hour of the day.) If all of that time is spent in a trainroom especially when some of that time could be spent with the miss'us, then for sure, the marriage won't go too far. Maybe our friend here may need to just look at being single the rest of his life if he's that devoted to his trains. No sense in getting into another relationship which will end in hurting her too.
I too have been there in my youth. Getting so wrapped up in the trains that I forget about my family, friends, and responsibilites that that inccurs. It wasn't the nail in the coffin so to speak, but was a contributing factor in why my first marriage didn't work out. When I met my now, new wife and made the decision to marry her, I made a vow to make sure she was taken care of and she will always come before the trains. Even if i have to give up a Saturday or two to do what she likes. Trains are fun no doubt, but not at the cost of losing a family you are supposed to be in love with....chuck
Dave Vollmer wrote: They say that women enter into a marriage hoping to change the man, but men enter into it hoping the woman never changes. The truth is that both parties will need to sacrifice some.
They say that women enter into a marriage hoping to change the man, but men enter into it hoping the woman never changes. The truth is that both parties will need to sacrifice some.
That is soo true! It took many years of on again, off again dating for my wife and I to figure that one out.
I haven't read this entire thread, it's four pages worth of something that has nothing to do with model railroading, so I don't know if anyone else has this same thought. If what you say in your orginal post is true, this new woman in your life needs to run from you. Honestly, a hobby is more important to you than a lifetime commitment you made to another person?
However, I suspect that you haven't come near giving us all the facts and that this post is your effort at a little humor; at least I hope that's the case.
Ray
It would make everything alot easier if women could figure out that boys don't grow up. They just get bigger (more expensive) toys.
Gary
If the original poster is honest and serious about what was posted to start this thread, then I can honestly say he needs a dose of reality, and some serious therapy. It sounds from his description that instead he was a serious hindrance to a relationship based on the info provided. How dare any woman want attention, or not understand that trains can be all over the house, or that bills from the LHS and online continue to deplete the family's funds !
If this is true, this is a great example of an extreme foamer/train nerd.....no decent woman desrves to be largely ignored and expected to "understand" such selfish, immature and bizzare behavior. People like this make me wonder if I want to have any part of the hobby, thankfully there are many well balanced people out there. If sacraficing time, space and money on your choo choos can't be infringed upon by the needs and opinions of another person you are the one who is reality challenged and need some serious help. Maybe getting off on pictures of trains is really all you need so why mess up someone else's life ?