Got a good reality check today.
Everyone has a bad day once in a while, you know, those days where you could care less about any and everything, catch a good case of the blues, and end up feeling really sorry for yourself?
Had one of those yesterday, and it looked like a repeat for today.
The yard is jammed to the gills with cars, no place to switch them to, more work than we could ever get done, knee deep in gators...that along with some personal issues keeping me down in the dumps, having a real good pity party for myself....
There is a young man, 16 now, who shows up just about every day it isn't raining...he sits across from our yard entrance watching the action on the old SP line, and watching us switch.
The thing is, he sits in a wheelchair.
His Dad brings him up there in the afternoon, around noonish, and they sit, him in his chair, Dad in the van he has, watching, taking the occasional photo, waving at the crews as they go by.
I have never really talked to either one of them, other than giving them a few cans of water during a scorching summer day, and sneaking a gimmie cap out to the kid once...didn't really know his story, other than he shows up all the time, and a few of the other regular fans seem to enjoy sitting with him.
Well, we were sitting there on the lead, blocked by another inbound, while we were trying to go grab another switch cut from the receiving yard...just piddling away time really, when I noticed the van drive up.
Dad unloads the kid; they have one of those hydraulic lifts in the side door.
He gets the boy all covered up with a blanket, and they are taking in all the sights.
The boy keeps looking over at us, we are literally just across the street from them, when I get one of those ideas that usually end up with me having to try to explain to someone higher up why and what I was thinking and doing.
I talk with my helper a minute, and he thinks it is a great idea also, so we get down, trot across the street, and ask the kid if he wants to see the locomotive up close....Don't think I would have gotten a better response if I had given him the lottery numbers for tonight!
We roll him across the street, Dad grabs the handles, and my helper and I get the wheels, and we carry the chair over the ballast to the side of our motor.
This young man is just ecstatic, starts asking a million questions, we are kinda tickled too...so my helper and engineer begin to answer his questions, when they can get a word in edgewise.
I was busy watching Dad...the look on his face was worth any trouble we might get into...I lead him away from the locomotive, far enough where normal conversation can be had lower than at a shout.
I ask a few questions of my own, and it turns out the kid was riding his brand new bike on his 12th birthday when a drunk driver clipped him...destroyed the spinal cord in his lower back; he is paralyzed from the waist down.
His Dad is beginning to cry a little now, seems the boy wanted to grow up and be an engineer, has always been a train nut, since childhood...Dad swears the kid can hear the trains miles away, you get the idea.
Dad and son have a model railroad and do the railfan bit together every chance they get.
Dad had tried to buy tickets for the UP 844, but just couldn't afford to get the tickets or the time to drive out to where it was.
He is really getting carried away thanking me for letting his son this close to a real locomotive, when my engineer, Booger, comes around the end of the motor, and points over to the dirt access road.
Great, our daylight trainmaster is standing there, looking at me with that look which usually means I have to think faster than I normally do.
So I wander over, he gives me the third degree, then the speech about liability, injury, getting sued, blah blah blah...the whole time, I am thinking what a Scrooge he is, all the kid is doing is asking questions, and touching the lower hand rail and steps....
Suddenly, I realize the trainmaster has quit talking, maybe a long while ago in fact, because he is looking at me like I am supposed to be giving him either an answer to a question or a load of BS, or both.
Now, my mouth and my brain sometimes run at different speeds, the mouth is usually faster of the two, and I usually regret that...today has been a crap day, my feet hurt, its really cold outside....
Before I even thought it through, I just looked at him and said" Dude, what a Scrooge you are, that kid will never get a chance like this again, ever...all he wants to do is look and ask questions...he should be glad he isn't one of your kids...!"...
I didn't wait for a reply, but just went back to Dad, walked him over to the kid, and was about to tell them the party was over when the trainmaster came walking up to us.
I was sure I had managed to get myself and my crew pulled out of service, just sure of it...and right before Christmas to boot.
The young man, who had no idea who this guy was, or what he was going to do, stuck out his hand and introduced himself, grinning from ear to ear...the trainmaster had no real choice but to shake with the kid...he then tapped me on the arm, and motioned for me to follow him...we go about 10 or 15 feet away, when the trainmaster turned around, and had the oddest look on his face I had ever seen.
By now the inbound had cleared us up, so the noise level had dropped a lot, and I swear, the guy sounded like he was about to cry...he pointed towards the receiving yard, and said "You can get to your switch cut now....of course, you might want to run your helper down an empty track to the other end to check for brakes and see if there is a Fred on the end"
Now, this make little sense, as the car department bleeds off these cuts, and removes the EOTs before we ever get a list on the stuff...I look at him, he nods towards the kid, then cuts his eyes up to the locomotive cab...no way...he is telling me to take the kid for a ride, just no way..."I will be downtown for a while, maybe an hour or so, if you need anything" he says, then looks at the kid again, and looks me straight in the eyes, "Be careful, Ok?"...spins around, walks over to his truck and leaves.
So when he is out of sight, I walk back, grab my engineer, clue him in and check to make sure he is good with it...he thinks it is a great idea...we ask Dad if they wouldn't mind going for a ride...I swear the kid looked like he was about to faint...Dad was a little stunned...said he didn't know how we would get the boy up there...
Booger is not the brightest light in the harbor, but he is one big son of a gun, he just reached down, grabbed the kid, flipped him over his shoulder, and walked up the steps, problem solved.
Now, I though we would just give them a ride, but when we got into the cab, Booger had the kid in the engineers seat, explaining what the controls did...I told him lets get over there before anyone notices...he runs standing up behind the kid, who is wild eyed at all of this.
We get in the track, pretty much hidden from the yard by the cut of cars, and Booger stops the motor....steps away from behind the kid, and tells him which handle to move, to press down on the independent, move the throttle over here....and we take off, with the kid running the motor.
We have close to a 120 cars worth of running room, so the kid gets to run back and forth a pretty good distance...we get down and start to give him hand signals, while Booger stand behind him, telling him what to do...pretty much we screw off for a good 30 minutes, but time well spent...we run Dad back to his van, tell him to meet us at the other end of the yard, let the kid notch it out a few more times, and end up at the north end, where there is a whole lot of nothing but tress and the access road...Dad shows up with the van, we get the wheelchair off the front porch, Booger does his human bench press routine again, and we gotta get back to work before the yardmaster figures out we are doing not a whole lot...
The young man looks like he is about to explode he is so happy, Dad is crying a little, my helper is suddenly real interested in the rocks around his feet, I am getting a little leaky too...the kid shakes hands all the way around, they get loaded up, and as they are pulling away, the kid yells out the window, "Thanks again, and you guys have a great Christmas"...
So we skipped beans to make up the time, and when we tied up, I ran up to the tower to talk to the yardmaster, as I was kinda curious as to why the trainmaster did what he did...turns out that, yup, you can guess, his 8 year old son was killed by a drunk driver.
Boy, do I owe someone an apology or what...
So I am driving home, feeling more like a idiot that usual, half of me thinking what I need to say to the trainmaster next time I see him, and half of me feeling pretty good about what we did for the kid, when it hits me...this kid will never get to do the things I take for granted every day...he most likely will never see the inside of a locomotive again, never line a switch, or tie a hand brake...never get to dance with his girlfriend, go surfing or ride a horse...and our trainmaster will never get to go watch trains or build a model with his son, or show him how to run a locomotive.
It smacked me so hard I had to pull over and sit a minute, smoke a smoke and think about it all.
So you know what?
Maybe nothing in my life is really wrong after all, I mean all my kids are healthy, my wife loves me, I am all in one piece, mostly, and in comparison...
Hey, ya know what?...I aint got no problems, none at all...
I don't normally preach, and I lost my soap box a long time ago, but just this once...
Do yourself, and your family a big favor this Christmas, and New Years eve...if you go out to party, and you drink...take a designated driver, or call a cab if have even just a little more than normal...cause trust me, you really don't have any problems, none at all.
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RJ
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Ed....
You da Man!
I'm sure I've made people's days before while working, but that family will never forget you and your crew.
You may owe the TM an apology, but don't think for a minute that you were the only one who had things set straight that day.
And thanks, from both of us, for your usual gift of putting it all into words.
Pat and...
Carl
Railroader Emeritus (practiced railroading for 46 years--and in 2010 I finally got it right!)
CAACSCOCOM--I don't want to behave improperly, so I just won't behave at all. (SM)
Yes indeed there is a Santa Claus. A whole bunch of them - an engine crew, a TM and a YM. Y'all gave that boy the best Christmas present he ever had and one he'll remember all his life. I too had to get my hanky out when I read your tale. Merry Christmas to you all and may you enjoy God's richest blessings.
Mark
.....Awesome Ed...!! You don't get those chances but a few times in life. You fellows did this one right to the top.
Thanks for sharing the beautiful story....
Quentin
CShaveRR wrote:Ed.... You da Man! I'm sure I've made people's days before while working, but that family will never forget you and your crew.You may owe the TM an apology, but don't think for a minute that you were the only one who had things set straight that day.And thanks, from both of us, for your usual gift of putting it all into words.Pat and...
My sentiments exactly.
Boy, it sure is hard to type well when you're having a hard time reading the screen.
Brian (IA) http://blhanel.rrpicturearchives.net.
Merry Christmas, Ed. Again you prove to be a man who knows what Christmas is really about. To all your crew a big Thank You. And for all who have lost a child to a drunk driver or to illness, or who have spent the holidays in hospital praying that your child be healed, your actions mean so much more.
Firefighters and paramedics get called heroes just for showing up to work and no doubt the work they do is important. (I used to be one myself.) But to that little boy and his dad, and to alot of us reading this forum, you and your crew are our heroes.
Larry Resident Microferroequinologist (at least at my house) Everyone goes home; Safety begins with you My Opinion. Standard Disclaimers Apply. No Expiration Date Come ride the rails with me! There's one thing about humility - the moment you think you've got it, you've lost it...
Thank you, Ed, for sharing your story.
And for the reminder about not doing something that might be regretted for a long time. Perhaps even one person reading this story will think twice about driving after one too many.
Willy
Ed,
Thank you for sharing that story. The tears were rolling before I even reached the middle.
Ed, DITTO to all the above comments!!
Now somebody needs to figure out how to dispense tissues through the screen.
Being Crazy,keeps you from going "INSANE" !! "The light at the end of the tunnel,has been turned off due to budget cuts" NOT AFRAID A Vet., and PROUD OF IT!!
ed,
THANK YOU FOR SHARING THAT STORY... It was Great!
Thank you for having the sense to observe and the guts to act. It is also nice to know that even trainmasters can be people too.
Merry Christmas
Mac
tree68 wrote:Words don't express...
INDEED!!!
Ed, may your watch over you. You have my utmost respect!
Ed, if I can see to type this, from the tears in my eyes, all I can say is: you and your crew are anAMAZING crew, and so is your TM!! May God bless you, your crew and your TM. You all did an absolutely amazing, awesome thing, and that boy will NEVER forget any of you!!
Thank you so very, very much for sharing your story with us.
Ed
thank you very much!when you walk in someone elses shoes makes ya think.as far as the driving part thats me. 2 people I knew were killed by drinking and driving.
stay safe
joe
Deshler Ohio-crossroads of the B&O Matt eats your fries.YUM! Clinton st viaduct undefeated against too tall trucks!!!(voted to be called the "Clinton St. can opener").
Ed..
Words can't express, they really can't.
The story that that father and son have to tell now, will live on for a million repetitions, until that boy is old and gray.
Can there be a better gift????
I think CShaveRR said it best
CShaveRR wrote: You da Man!
Merry Christmas Ed!.....
You were one lucky SOB that day. Not only did you provide a precious gift to one so deserving, you managed to give yourself the greatest gift of all, that of a new perspective on one's own life. All to often I find myself in the dumps thinking my life is wasted because I can't be that burst of sunlight in a darkened world, and then I read a story like yours and the clouds roll away, knowing that routine things in life can provide an opportunity if I just recognize it. Anyway enough of that stuff, I can see the screen clearly, now.
Thanks for sharing that wonderful story. I wouldn't be surprised to see this story in a chain-mail (forward this e-mail to ten of your friends and see what happens) before Christmas.
P.S. I don't think you owe the trainmaster an apology so much as a thank-you.
A truly moving story. Thank you so much for what you did and taking the time to share it with all of us. May you, Aimee and your girls all have a great Christmas!
-ChrisWest Chicago, ILChristopher May Fine Art Photography"In wisdom gathered over time I have found that every experience is a form of exploration." ~Ansel Adams
Ed....Jean wishes to pass along her response to your Christmas tale:
"Ed....What a great human interest story......You've shown the true meaning of Christmas and unknowingly earned a few "stars in your Heavenly Crown". Thanks for sharing your experience, one that will not soon be forgotten by many". Jean Mong
I don't think there's a dry eye in the place.....
Merry christmas to all......
Randy Vos
"Ever have one of those days where you couldn't hit the ground with your hat??" - Waylon Jennings
"May the Lord take a liking to you and blow you up, real good" - SCTV
Ed: Having met you, I would expect no less of you. You have made life a little better for a lot of us.
Mookie
She who has no signature! cinscocom-tmw
Before you all get too carried away...
I received a gift from the young man also...doing this for him taught me something else...
I had forgotten how to "play"...it was as much fun for us as anything we have done in a while.
And I thought about something late last night...what his Dad does for a living that allows him to spend as much time with his son as he does?
Whatever it is, it must be worth the sacrifice because it allows him to do something a lot of us never do...spend a lot of time with his kid, and watch, really watch him grow up.
Now, how cool is that?
I know the Dad works with his hand, you could see the callous, and every time I see him, he is always dressed in kakis or jeans and work shoes.
His watch is a Timex, his van is an old 70 something Dodge...but his kid was dressed in the "latest" cool clothes, the Nikes on his feet were the real deal, the kid's camera was a Cannon Rebel, so I could see where Dad spends his money...
Anyway, when I got home last night, and after I typed all that...I took my kids and we went and played...we walked down to the BN main and watched a few trains, took a stroll through the woods near here, chased a wild rabbit, (rabbits win every time) then sat out in the front yard and watched stars, talking about all kind of stuff.
See, I realized that maybe the young boys Dad is the real hero here...after all, it can't be easy.
But he is the one getting the reward; so to speak...the looks between him and his son made me realize how much I wish I had taken the time to really talk to my Dad, and how much I miss him.
It also made me realize how much the boy and his Dad love each other...you could see that no matter what happens, they will always be there for each other, you could see the boy trusted him completely.
I get it now...buying the new plasma tv for the house, or getting the next Playstation hasn't made me a "good" parent anywhere near as much as chasing a rabbit with a 7 and 13 year old did....Now I know things about my kids, and how they think, what they really want, what scares them and what doesn't.
Things I though I knew didn't really matter, what I though they wanted, and what they really wanted turned out to be different things after all.
Ya know what, there is a meteor shower due here on the 12th...think a road trip to the beach with the kids sounds like a great idea.
So the kid got a cab ride and a quick locomotive lesson, but I think I am the one who got the real gift...
Every once in a while a story like this comes up on the forum. A while ago I recall the story of Metra who named one of their new locos after a very young fellow who had terminal cancer.
I've made several copies of this story, but I have one elementary question. How do I email this story to others.
Thanks for this heart warming story.
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