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Posted by don246 on Wednesday, September 1, 2010 6:20 PM

I don't have any friends, is that sad?

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Posted by selector on Wednesday, September 1, 2010 6:30 PM

don246

I don't have any friends, is that sad?

Well, now that I have rejected all 15 of my requests for friendship, I guess I'm in the same boat. Sad

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Posted by jwhitten on Wednesday, September 1, 2010 6:55 PM

don246

I don't have any friends, is that sad?

 

Not as sad as Crandell, he had friends and jilted them all !!!

Laugh

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Posted by rrinker on Wednesday, September 1, 2010 8:31 PM

 It's a sad commentary on the typical person's state of mind if it would be looked on as some negative sort of "favoritism" for a moderator to accept some people as friends and not others. We sure are generating new generations of whiny no self esteem people who probably ought to just shut their yaps and realize life isn't fair if this 'hurts' them.

 I'm locking this post (if that even works) because I'm REALLY holding back a lot here.

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Posted by galaxy on Wednesday, September 1, 2010 9:03 PM

Geared Steam

 galaxy:

 

 Geared Steam:

 

It says I have made 6 requests to be "friends", apparently anyone I have PM'd in the past is considered by the new software to be a friend or an unanswered request to be a friend. I deleted most of them except for the cool dudes here, those are still open.  IdeaSmile, Wink & Grin

 

 

I received a "friends request" from you in my email. I don't know if I qualify as a "cool dude" here or not. But, as I have stated, I am not accepting it or any other such offer with no disrepect meant and total indifference to everyone.

 

You apparently didn't read it, nor have sense of humor. No, you didn't qualify and that request fell into the same category as the others-deleted. No disrespect mind you, I really don't take this stuff that seriously. Laugh

Yes, I did read it {the email} and found some humor there, and also hence my remark about being a "cool dude" here!. Smile, Wink & Grin  I did not realize that you had requests open to those you had Pm'd in the past as that did not seem to happen to me. I just thought, in case you were serious, that I would clarify that I wouldn't accept IF you were serious!  Wink AS I have said before I have found the "friends" thing on another forum to be a scandalous waste of time, energy, and bandwidth. More people cry in their coffee and start effectively bogus threads jsut to make a point, jab or dig at someone who has blocked them, or has banned them from their "friends list" so they can't post to a thread. {then they wonder why they are banned}.{ I suppose us here in this thread against the friends idea could be considered to be crying in our coffee}.

 

This is a free forum for all who choose to register here to use in a good civil manner. Everyone should have a fair right option to post an opinion or advice to a thread unless they use foul language, are vindictive towards a poster or start a "flame war". Perhaps the friends idea is good to some, and perhaps will work out well for them, but as an above poster remarked, it seems that too many are NOT in favor of the "friends game" for whatever reason than seem to be  for it. Perhaps they have run into problems with such on another forum and found it to be of little good use. I suppose my statements here could be considered to be SoapBox

 

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Posted by Bergie on Thursday, September 2, 2010 8:26 AM

I could be wrong, but isn't the friends feature simply a way to have quick access to the people you want to either (A) watch their posts or (B) have quick access to their account in case you need to contact them?

It's not meant to be a popularity contest and little if anything should be read into who has who on their friends list. I personally don't feel that a moderator having one member on their Friends list is any indication that they would give that person preferential treatment of any sort.

Just my two cents.

Bergie

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Posted by MisterBeasley on Thursday, September 2, 2010 9:04 AM

Hey, Bergie, it's good to see your avatar again.  How's life treating you?

On other forums, you have to have a mutual "friendship" agreement to exchange private messages.  Is that what's going on here?  I tried to find the "private e-mail" thing here and I couldn't.  Is that because I'm not "friends?" with that member?  Or did private e-mails go away?  I hope not, because you can't attach files to the "conversation" boxes, and that's what I wanted to do in this case.

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Posted by pastorbob on Thursday, September 2, 2010 1:49 PM

It is well known I am an old cuss, but I get junk throughout the day about someone on Facebook wants me to be a friend or whatever.  When I get one, I just delete it.  At my age, I have more interesting things to do than sit on a computer all day talking to different people via the keyboard.  It may be the "in thing" for the younger adults and kids, but I don't spend all day playing on the computer.  Being retired I don't have to be bound to one anymore, even though I have a desktop and two laptops.

So if Kalmbach thinks it is being "in", that is their call and their problem.  Not mine.  I come out a few times a day to see if there is anything interesting or informational, and then go back to the basement.  After all, the whole reason to retire was to get away from the outside world and enjoy my remaining years. 

After this I am sure I don't have to worry about "getting any friends" and that is fine.  there are some on this forum I enjoy bantering with, others I wouldn't want to find in my basement.

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Posted by JoeinPA on Thursday, September 2, 2010 3:12 PM

Gee,  and I thought that we were all friends hereBig Smile

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Posted by selector on Thursday, September 2, 2010 3:36 PM

Deleting a duplicate post of yours in the Friends thread, Joe.  It's okay, my own posts are showing up twice, too.  I have reported it to Craig and Wade.  They need to fix something.

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Posted by richhotrain on Thursday, November 10, 2011 6:37 AM

I am not one to revive old threads, and I hate when others do it.

But, how did I miss this little gem of a thread from a year ago???   LOL

I love the fact that Crandell rejected all 15 requests from other Forum members to be friends.  I knew better than to ask him in the first place.

And then there is galaxy with no friends.  LOL   (But we still love you, galaxy).

I have never quite grasped the concept of the Your Friends feature, but how meaningful can it be when Motley is one of my Friends.  Laugh  (Just kidding, Michael).

In closing, I would like to propose a feature where you could add  screen names of forum members that you detest.  LOL  Wouldn't that be fun?

Rich

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Posted by HaroldA on Thursday, November 10, 2011 6:54 AM
"OK, the "new and improved" site appears to have done some good and some maybe ???? things. For instance I like the fact there is a little more room between the bar that has the "Our Magazine, News and Reviews.... etc." in it and where you click to get back to the threads... But..." Hmmm - I didn't even know we had a 'new and improved' version of the site. When did this happen??? - LOL And for the record, I have one friend, Crandall.

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Posted by richhotrain on Thursday, November 10, 2011 7:05 AM

HaroldA

 LOL And for the record, I have one friend, Crandall.

OMG, I see that Crandell has 8 friends.  Dunno, I am still afraid to ask him.  Confused

Rich

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Posted by galaxy on Thursday, November 10, 2011 7:19 AM

richhotrain

And then there is galaxy with no friends.  LOL   (But we still love you, galaxy).

Not quite true...I had an OFFER of a friend..from Geared steam...don't know how I got it as we never ever communicated.

*sniff*

I never wanted any friends anyway.Crying

Music I am a Rock, I am an Island , and a Rock feels no pain, and an Island never criesMusic {Simon ANd Garfunkle Circa 1975}

They say "never be a friend or accept a friend" or something like that don't they?Sad

Who is "they" anyway?Hmm

*sniff*

*sniff*

Geeked

 

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Posted by richhotrain on Thursday, November 10, 2011 7:39 AM

The more I think about it, the more uses I find for Your Friends.

Wouldn't it be great if they included in your profile the avatars of those who requested to be Friends but you rejected?

Hmmm, maybe that is not such a good idea.  They might include in your profile all of the avatars of those whom you requested to be Your Friends, but who rejected you.   Grumpy

Rich

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Posted by galaxy on Thursday, November 10, 2011 7:48 AM

Oh BOY!!!!

I just got a friend invite!!!!!

Whatever shall I DO????

Geeked

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Posted by richhotrain on Thursday, November 10, 2011 7:55 AM

galaxy

Oh BOY!!!!

I just got a friend invite!!!!!

Whatever shall I DO????

Geeked

Reject it out of hand!!!

LOL

It wasn't me.

Rich

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Posted by Bergie on Thursday, November 10, 2011 8:08 AM

[Right now, Bergie is wondering why he ever signed up for e-mail alerts from this thread.]

Tongue Tied

I hope all my long lost friends are well.

Bergie

 

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Posted by blownout cylinder on Thursday, November 10, 2011 8:13 AM

Bergie

[Right now, Bergie is wondering why he ever signed up for e-mail alerts from this thread.]

Tongue Tied

I hope all my long lost friends are well.

Bergie

 

I'm so glad I don't get email notices ...it does save on email space...

 

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Posted by richhotrain on Thursday, November 10, 2011 8:29 AM

Bergie

[Right now, Bergie is wondering why he ever signed up for e-mail alerts from this thread.]

Tongue Tied

I hope all my long lost friends are well.

Bergie

 

Oh cripes, that never crossed my mind.  Bang Head

My apologies, Bergie.   Sigh

Maybe Ulrich will lock this thread.   Laugh

Rich

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Posted by selector on Thursday, November 10, 2011 10:12 AM

I rejected Ulrich, too. Laugh

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Posted by twhite on Thursday, November 10, 2011 10:24 AM

Well, nothing like being late for the party--I never even thougt about the "Your Friends" thingie before, so I clicked it and found out I had six.  Does this mean that I have to send them Birthday cards and stuff?

Tom Big Smile

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Posted by galaxy on Thursday, November 10, 2011 10:39 AM

selector

I rejected Ulrich, too. Laugh

Crandell

Crandell, how COULD you?

 

twhite

  Does this mean that I have to send them Birthday cards and stuff?

Tom Big Smile

Of COURSE it does, silly!!! And don't forget the venerable Christmas present...preferably the train of their choice!!

{notice I kept it ON TOPIC}

After all, guys, what are friends for?!?!?

Geeked

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Posted by Anonymous on Thursday, November 10, 2011 11:17 AM

Crandell - I´ll remember that Angry

C´mon, folks, this thread is as dead as the dodo. This is not Facebook, this is a platform, where a bunch of crazy folks like me exchange views, share experience and gain knowledge. That´s more than the so called friends in the popular social media can offer - a lot more!

Friend or not friend, that´s not the question, so I take the liberty of locking this thread. Anyone who wants to feather and tar me for it Whistling

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