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Posted by dave9999 on Sunday, November 16, 2003 9:27 PM
I am lucky enough to have help with painting,tree making, and scenery on my layout.
I was wondering if my fellow MRR's receive assistance from your wives/ girlfreinds or do
they feel you spend more time with your trains than with them?[xx(]
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Posted by Hawks05 on Sunday, November 16, 2003 9:33 PM
i'm lucky/unfortunate to not have a girlfriend. i'm in high school and not the most popular person or the "hottest" person so to speak. i've had girlfriends but not when i was into the hobby. seeing as i'm just starting and decided to get into the hobby maybe 3 weeks ago. i haven't really told anyway. if i did have a girlfriend and i was in high school they'd probably laugh at me or something and break up with me. oh well i guess not having a girlfriend leaves me with more money to spend on things for the layout and for me.
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Posted by Anonymous on Sunday, November 16, 2003 9:44 PM
A what? You mean there's more to life than just trains?!

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Posted by Anonymous on Sunday, November 16, 2003 10:16 PM
My girlfriend is as avid a model railroader as I am. So we have fun going train chasing and bonding over layout construction. We are getting ready to build her first model railroad. Based on varius scenes of Vermont Rail Systems

The neat thing is, if and when we get married, the debate isn't going to be if we can have a model railroad as a kitchen table. Its going to be what railroad is it?
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Posted by Anonymous on Sunday, November 16, 2003 10:44 PM
QUOTE: Originally posted by Grayhound Challenger

My girlfriend is as avid a model railroader as I am. So we have fun going train chasing and bonding over layout construction. We are getting ready to build her first model railroad. Based on varius scenes of Vermont Rail Systems

The neat thing is, if and when we get married, the debate isn't going to be if we can have a model railroad as a kitchen table. Its going to be what railroad is it?


Oh My, i can see the house now, they're won't be a room without some sort of train meandering around it. Oh and I bet the couch will have upolstry that has train print on it too. At night the bedroom will have the consta sounds of a steamer chugging around the top of the room, the light shining along the walls in the darkness.

Hmm..and maybe it'll have a depot in the basement where all the trains wandering through the various parts of the house head to for repairs and others are dispacthed to take their places. The kids will be served dinner on Portable Tables in the shapes of various Rolling stock, a Train will take dinner from the kitchen and deliver it to the table. The garage will be built to resemble a car carrier, with an attached storage shed in the shape of a caboose.

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Posted by Anonymous on Sunday, November 16, 2003 11:17 PM
there is something wrong with girlfriends or wives who dont allow there signaficant other to do what they like but maybe thats just me considering i have always been a female railfan and into trains, trains to me are very relaxin and comfortating there is nothing more i enjoy then train chasing and the sound of a horn at a crossing, maybe i am a one of a kind or whatever but i am sure as hell not afraid to admit i love more like have a strong feelin towards trains.Trains are a great hobby and the one thing i hate is being insulted cus i am a female railfan by others no matter if they are male or female too bad i love trains and nothing is ever goin to change that. long live trains. thanks and sorry to put all this mumbo jumbo but like i said i am a female railfan and i stand proud.
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Posted by Anonymous on Sunday, November 16, 2003 11:30 PM
by the way i am greyhound challengers gf
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Posted by dave9999 on Sunday, November 16, 2003 11:48 PM
Didnt mean to exclude the ladies out there! I am glad to see women involved in the hobby. Most people
think of it as a male dominated hobby. So let me rephrase my question. I'll add : And do any Women
get help from thier husbands/boyfriends? Soooo sorry Dave
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Posted by Anonymous on Sunday, November 16, 2003 11:53 PM
you are ok didnt mean it to be rude or anything i am just statin there are some female railfans out there very few but some i guess. thanks
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Posted by Anonymous on Monday, November 17, 2003 8:13 AM
Just doin' my thing and enjoying it. My wife of 35 years has no interest in MRR however she lets me buy what I need and do what I want [:)] so in a way that is getting assistance. My 2 daughters, 2 son-in-laws and 4 grandchildren have no interest in MRR. [:(]

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Posted by FJ and G on Monday, November 17, 2003 8:20 AM
I'm 47, and available if there are any women out there who would like to marry a train dude. [:D]
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Posted by detting on Monday, November 17, 2003 10:49 AM
I can get my wife to come out to train events and do some train watching, but she refuses to help with the layout. I am fortunate in that she is understanding of the time and $$$ aspects of the hobby. Ironically she is searching for a hobby...

Go figure...
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Posted by brothaslide on Monday, November 17, 2003 11:21 AM
QUOTE: Originally posted by detting

I can get my wife to come out to train events and do some train watching, but she refuses to help with the layout. I am fortunate in that she is understanding of the time and $$$ aspects of the hobby. Ironically she is searching for a hobby...

Go figure...


Have her try scrapbooking - my wife is more into that than I am into trains. Check out www.twopeasinabucket.com
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Posted by Anonymous on Monday, November 17, 2003 12:52 PM
My wife thinks there is something developmentally wrong with me because I have what she considers a childs hobby and she can't bring herself to even visit the layout. She never really complains, she just looks at me like you do a new puppy that just crapped on the floor everytime I say trains, you know, slight smile with eyes rolled back in her head. I never buy anything in her presence and never ask to go to a hobby shop when she is with me. She has this thing for faries and it takes me an extra 10 min to mow because of all of them winged women in the yard. So I pay her back when she mentions faries or wants to stop at a yard ornament store. But you know, I don't really mind her faries, I can always use them in arguements, and some of them are pretty hot lookin'. FRED
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Posted by Anonymous on Monday, November 17, 2003 12:54 PM
I like to use my model rr as my means of escape and fun when I'm at home alone. Either reading a book, magazine, or building a model on a rainy day or a late night after a stressed day of work. My friends don't seem to care much about my layout, and I never bore them with the details. But they are impressed with the setup. Only problem is that everyone always wants to "Gun" your trains at full speed if they get the chance to try them out, so I keep my old slow moving Bachman F9 handy for those visitors.
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Posted by AggroJones on Monday, November 17, 2003 1:49 PM
[V][V][V][V][V][V][V][V][V][V][V][V][V][V][V][V][V][V] I'm in my early 20's and have never had a significant other. Back in high school, I didn't tell anyone what I like to do. And I never conversated too much either. No body knew I was a railroader and I'm pretty sure no high school girls would dig that. [:(] I went to an extemely ghetto high school, very dangerous [B)], safer if I didn't reveal personal information. [:(!]
I never in my life got the feeling a woman has had intrest in me [V][V][V]

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Posted by Anonymous on Monday, November 17, 2003 3:28 PM
QUOTE: Originally posted by AggroJones
I never in my life got the feeling a woman has had intrest in me [V][V][V]


I feel your pain man, I felt the same way until I met my girlfriend. I thought I was one of those guys destined to be single all of his life becasue he just didn't have what women want. I had stopped looking altogether. Then this girl that I became friends with and had been for about a year suddenly announces out of the blue that she is tired of waiting for me to ask her to be my girlfriend, so she was asking me to her boyfriend.

All I have to say is that it will take time. If you make friends, and be a nice person, some girl will find you the right fit for her and want to be with you. Thats what happened with me.

James.
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Posted by Anonymous on Monday, November 17, 2003 4:22 PM
I don't have a special anyone, and if I had, I'm sure she'd loath the hobby, I mean, I don't know anyone who enjoys this whos under the age of 50.
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Posted by brothaslide on Monday, November 17, 2003 4:39 PM
QUOTE: Originally posted by AggroJones

[I went to an extemely ghetto high school, very dangerous [B)], safer if I didn't reveal personal information. [:(!]
I never in my life got the feeling a woman has had intrest in me [V][V][V]


There's railroaders in da' hood! Check out the website I do for Locke High just down the street from Watts in LA (www.lockesaints.com) I don't live there but my high school was pretty tuff as well. Athearn is "Straight Outta Compton".

AggroJones - The community needs you to be strong, have a wife, children and set a great example!

Peace
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Posted by Anonymous on Monday, November 17, 2003 5:32 PM
QUOTE: Originally posted by flyingscot

I don't have a special anyone, and if I had, I'm sure she'd loath the hobby, I mean, I don't know anyone who enjoys this whos under the age of 50.


Plenty under 50 that enjoy it, even women.

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Posted by Anonymous on Monday, November 17, 2003 8:28 PM
I grew up in Philly, went to a bad school too. Now I live in Seattle. Love my home and where I grew up, but the neighborhood is much nicer out here on the west coast. And the significant others are pretty good out here too.
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Posted by Jetrock on Monday, November 17, 2003 8:35 PM
I'm married. My wife isn't really interested in model railroading, but she does like trains and enjoys joining me on railroad museum trips and other railfannish jaunts. She has hobbies of similar inclination (jewelry making) and so understands the fun I get from model building. She has been very supportive of my interests, not quite to the point of allowing a model railroad in the house (although I might sneak in a small display mini layout under the radar screens) but enough that it is obvious that she approves of my hobby.

I think she also likes the fact that model railroading keeps me home more nights, whereas the hobby it is slowly replacing (performing and promoting rock and experimental music shows, and running a monthly gothic/industrial nightclub) kept me out of the house a lot of evenings.

She doesn't even give me a hard time about money spent on the hobby--of course, I don't really *mention* how much I spend on the hobby... ;)
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Posted by Anonymous on Monday, November 17, 2003 11:21 PM
QUOTE: Originally posted by flee307

My wife thinks there is something developmentally wrong with me because I have what she considers a childs hobby and she can't bring herself to even visit the layout. She never really complains, she just looks at me like you do a new puppy that just crapped on the floor everytime I say trains, you know, slight smile with eyes rolled back in her head. I never buy anything in her presence and never ask to go to a hobby shop when she is with me. She has this thing for faries and it takes me an extra 10 min to mow because of all of them winged women in the yard. So I pay her back when she mentions faries or wants to stop at a yard ornament store. But you know, I don't really mind her faries, I can always use them in arguements, and some of them are pretty hot lookin'. FRED


ROFL...THIS POST IS HYSTERICAL
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Posted by sparkingbolt on Tuesday, November 18, 2003 6:42 AM
I'm obviously luckier than I thought I was. And beleive me, I thought i was perdy well off.
My wife doesn't model, but enjoys my models. Not only does she not gripe about the funds needed, she even warns me to get something I want before it's out of production! (anyone have a dead 44 tonner in SP?)

She kinda proudly points out to others certain things she knows are worthy of note, and she can appreciate the diff between a hard earned scratchbuilt model and something more easily attained. She loves protoype trains too!

That's a pretty fair break, doncha think? : ) Dan

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Posted by Anonymous on Tuesday, November 18, 2003 8:48 AM
It's wonderful to have my husband who is into this hobby like I am. We are still in the planning stages of our layout, but are going to start buying are locos and stuff in a week or two. We are going to a train show this weekend, and are getting all excited about itlike a couple of kids (I'm 43) going to Disneyland. [:D]

I know what it's like to have a "significant other" who could care less. That would be my first marriage.[:(!]

Cindy

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Posted by GerFust on Tuesday, November 18, 2003 11:15 AM
My wife hasn't really caught on with model railroading, or railfanning. I bought here a structure model to build so we could work on the layout together - it really didn't fly. She does, however, support my interest in the hobby by buying me subscriptions to MR, Garden Railways, etc. She also purchases additional magazines when I travel to read on the train. She watches out for train shows, train stuff at garage sales, encourages the kids to be involved, and makes trains a theme of cards, presents, etc.

Nor does she complain about the expense of the hobby, although I try to limit that. I think she is glad I have a stress reliever, and that is beneficial for her as well as me.

I can never get her to wear the engineer's cap, though!

-Jer
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Posted by Anonymous on Tuesday, November 18, 2003 2:59 PM
Alas, I've never had a girl friend[V][V][V]. Maybe I'm just shy, or girls just plain flat out hate me[:(]. And when my friends see me reading my train books, they just look at the picture and say, "what's so special abot trains?".[:(] But hey[:)] I like trains and MRR so I'm happy 24/7.[:D] (no one can tell me what to like........rrrr[:(!])
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Posted by eastcoast on Tuesday, November 18, 2003 11:41 PM
My model trains have been around me LONGER than my wife.
She married me knowing I did this hobby. Yeah, she thinks it's cool
and all but really never looks at it .She likes the fact that it keeps me
out of trouble and at HOME. She knows where to find me, but is pretty
much a widow to the trains. I will purposely do some structure kits up
stairs in the livingroom just to try to be with her. BUT SHE STILL DOESN'T
REALLY CARE. Her main thing is that she feels that I might get upset if
she makes mistakes. I want her help and love her, but will let her go her
own way. ME, I've got a three track mind.
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Posted by Z For Me on Wednesday, November 19, 2003 2:45 AM
My dear wife has very little intrest in the hobby.
I have tried and she has shown intrest but she just does not get it.
Her hobbys, livestock, horses, hunting, fishing and her lifted 1998 Jeep Cherokee. She is also an avid collector of firearms (mee too!) Damm, she even owns a NFA Class III registered fully automatic submachine gun! Go figure?
I love her dearly, she is 13 years my juinor, I am 43 she is 30 so maybe the generation gap is the reason that she has little intrest in model railroading. I don't think that she was ever exposed at a younger age to the addiction.
One more thing, Where we live in Ely, NV we have two live steamers that are fully operational during the warmer months and they are so nice to ride or to just watch. They were formally used almost 100 years old working the copper mines in our small (<3000 population) mountain town. Here is a link for anyone that may be interested in taking a trip up to see, ride or even rent these two steamers. http://nevadanorthernrailway.net/ Please have a look and I know that you will enjoy reading the history of our trains. One of them was even transported by tractor trailer to the last winter games used to transport folks to and from differant olyimpic sites. It made our town so proud to be a part of the winter games by providing one of our old steamers for all the world to see and ride.
Again, you can rent these trains for a somewhat fair price and it includes engineer training and you are the throttle man for the two hour loop to and from the old copper mine. If I can remember the the prices start at $500.00 to operate one of the steamers.
Please have a look and who knows, maybe one day I will see you blowing the horn wearing the biggest smile of your life!
Take care, Mark in Ely, NV
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Posted by BR60103 on Wednesday, November 19, 2003 10:42 PM
My wife liked the trains as soon as she saw them. It must have been a combinationof that and the dancing that got her.
She keeps an eye on what I do. She makes sure that the railroad looks respectable and made sure that it was ready for the NMRA convention last year.
She talked me into adding a joining piece to make a continuous run out of my point-to-point and now I find that she expects it to be scenicked!
She is also the one who spots bargain lots at train shows -- we got a double box of cars and details for $5.
And we also spent 20 years going into the city together on the commuter train.
For the single fellows: keep looking. I was 27 before I found her.

--David

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