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[quote]QUOTE: Originally posted by trainluver1 ... I guess you could say he's a "distant" friend of mine, and yes, he is the kind that has an addictive personality.[/quote] Sounds more like an irritating acquaintance than a friend to you. [quote]QUOTE: He just ended a seven year relationship with a prostitute-if you can call it a relationship, is filthy and disorganized and has one of the most vulgar mouths on earth.. [/quote] In other words, low self-esteem and a loud mouth slob that doesn't make much money. I think I work with him! Seriously, If anyone needs therapy, this poor soul does. As Tom said "(his) inability to find contentment with even one of his new train purchases, will not respond well to interference". It is not about model railroading but escapism. He is most likely in denial and may not realize he has a problem until he hits bottom. It's more obvious when drinking, drugs or gambling is involved. Are there other people in his life, like family, who genuinely care about him? Do you know and talk to them? [quote]QUOTE: Every time I turn around he's calling me to come over and repair one of his engines or something that he's droped and broken...[/quote] He's got your number and you're enabling him, sorry to say. He'll keep calling you because you're a caring person at heart (otherwise you would just take his money or tell him to get bent) and he's going to take advantage of that. For example, I knew a guy, Tim, who had a friend, Charlie, who worked in an auto parts store. Tim needed a starter for his truck, but he also knew the starter ring on the flywheel was chewing up the starter. Replacing the flywheel was a lot of work and he didn't want to do it or pay to have it done. So Instead of replacing the flywheel, he would just change the starter. When the starter would wear out in a month or two, he'd take it back to Charlie. Being a good friend, Charlie would replace it under warranty for free. When I asked Tim why he didn't just replace the flywheel, he said " why should I when I can get new starters from Charlie". You may be dealing with a person with flawed logic. [quote]QUOTE: It's as if he never learns. [/quote] Sometimes they do, others never. Just pray he doesn't kill or hurt himself or someone else. [quote]QUOTE: ...I've tried being patient with him and tried teaching him things, but I'd have better luck trying to teach a rock...[/quote] Sounds like it's getting to you. Don't let it discourage you from helping others. You win some, you loose some. You don't have to respond to him everytime he calls. [quote]QUOTE: I don't mean to be so critical of the guy, but this is really how he is.[/quote] You must see some redeeming qualities in him. If you don't think he'd get mad and kill you, be frank with him. Tell him he's going to crash and burn if he doesn't get his priorities straight. One day it's all going to catch up to him. He may not like what you say or listen, but he will remember your warning when it happens.
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