Train brain washed single real cowboy.

[Anonymous]

I am a guy who is single at age 30. I spend to much time on my hO model train layout than I do doing any thing about being single. I get asked my girls what my intrerts are. I say model trains. They think I am crazy. Is it ok to be messing with model trains at age 30 instead of chasing women. I am a cowboy on a ranch here in Wyoming and this Ho model train hobby is my outlet from a day of work. Which I spend sitting on a horse every day staring at cows. I am just wondering if I need to tone the trains down a bit.

[MisterBeasley]

Dude, I didn't get married until I was 39, to a gal my age. At 43, we had a fine baby daughter. The wife is an artist, and I'm an engineer, but we both like bicycling and skiing, so that's where we come together.

The Flight Simulator people used to do polls about gender, and it was 99% male. From the last train show I went to, it's not much different here. It's OK to keep your hobby, if that's what you like, but don't let it be your whole life. But don't be artificial about it either - if you don't like to dance, don't go to dance clubs just to meet ladies. Out in Wyoming, I'd look into skiing - it's fun even if you don't meet the gal of your dreams. Try canoeing, hiking, or other outdoor things. You're obviously very comfortable outdoors. Take advantage of it. Find someone else to share that with. You'll have plenty of long Wyoming winter nights for trains, or whatever.

[Anonymous]

I got married at 39 also. Its more of what you think is important. You got to go where the girls are if you want to get one. The one to keep is the one that accepts you with all your attributes good, bad and indifferent. She may or may not adopt your hobbies but she allows you to persue them. A freind of mine loves duck hunting. He took his gal on a duck hunt. She wore stilleto heeled boots, perfume and jewelry with her camo clothing. As he was getting ready to shoot when he managed to finally successfully call in a flight, she jumped up and hollered "Run ducky, Run". He kept her anyway and they've had a good and fruitul marriage. But that was the one and only duck hunt she ever went on.

[Jetrock]

cowhand71: The most important skill you will have to learn in order to deal properly with the opposite sex is the ability to lie. Starting out with small lies, like telling women your main interest is something OTHER than trains, will be excellent practice for medium-sized lies like "I've never met anyoneas fascinating as you", "I love sushi!" and "Of course I'll respect you afterward." Then you can move on to advanced lying, things like "That new dress looks great on you!", "Hooray, you know how much I've always wanted to be a father!" and "Of course you look as beautiful as you did when we first met!"

Lying is the key to dating and marital bliss. The presence of the trains will become apparent eventually, but ideally by that point she will like your lies enough to be comfortable with the real you.

[Bikerdad]

It is okay to be messing with model trains at 30 rather than chasin women. If, however, you're runnin' away from the women, ya may want to think about why you'd do such a dangfoolthang. (Of course, there are some women that you should run from, but that's not what we're talking about.)

Just think about it: are you using the model trains to hide from women? If not, then everything is cool.

[rrinker]

No problem at all. Just hang in there - one day I was online and this girl saw my profile which said I was a geek, motorhead, and train nut, and was intrigued to start a conversation. I found out that She liked mesing around with computers, previously had a show winning 56 Chevy, and her dad was a railroad employee and a modeler. And she was single. My usual shy self melted away and I asked her to dinner.
Well, now we have a basement with a nice house on top, and my father in law and I are building a large layout int he basement. She doesn't actively participate int he hobby, but she understands it.
So forget all the ones who think you're 'wierd' for being a model railroader. There actually are some who don't, you jus have to find one of those.

--Randy

[SpaceMouse]

If you are 30 and are really into trains, you could a) have a hobby that you like, or b) be a self-absorbed, recluce, myopic thinker. Either way you might as well play with trains.

[tatans]

If a 'wimmin" can't figure out that it might be better for a husband (boyfriend) to fool around with trains at home rather than sitting around a stinking bar with a bunch of juicers, or chasing someone else's wife all over the country like an ugly dog in heat, maybe she should get her priorities right. I'll bet there are a lot of wives out there that wi***hat their husbands WERE home playing with trains. Ease off just a little on the choo-choos, but don't forget to mention it in passing.---Remember-Real cowboys wear overalls. -at least here in Alberta.

[darkstar974]

there is nothing wrong with being 30 and working on your model railroad i am 30 and i work on one, but i am married. you never know you may find a woman when you least expect it working with the trains is better than boozin

[SpaceMouse]

QUOTE: Originally posted by tatans

I'll bet there are a lot of wives out there that wi***hat their husbands WERE home playing with trains.

My wife likes the idea of me playing with trains a lot more than she likes the idea of me play Cowboy, away from home, with real guns.

[gvdobler]

Look for a girl that owns a hobby shop, or at least her folks do.

Jon - Las Vegas

[Anonymous]

Jetrock, that was very good! Never give up the trains, or modeling your favorite area. Especially in a beautiful place like Wyoming. My dear wife was able to fully adapt to the hobby, in fact now enjoys the building of the newest layout at our home. I did allow her to have the impression that most of this was her idea, .....

[TrainFreak409]

This is good stuff for me to read up on. You never can know too much information that could help you in the future. Being only 15, I can't say much, but I can throw in my 2 cents.

This reminds me of conversations that have gone on at Purkey's Toy Trains. This one woman comes in, and we've talked multiple times, and she says that she likes the fact that her husband is a train-oholic. He has over $10,000 of MTH and Lionel in their basement, and she knows where he is everynight.

But then, I can relate to this myself, not necessarily in a love relationship way, but in today's society, it seems that trains are exactly the most popular thing. People will think you are weird, but then again, some will be absolutely fascinated with it.

All I can say; there is someone out there waiting for you to find them, for them to find you, and for you two to find each other.

One question though, is it actually necessary to lie in a relationship? I did have a girlfriend at one point, and I never lied to her once, and everything went good.

~[8]~ TrainFreak409 ~[8]~

[egmurphy]

QUOTE: One question though, is it actually necessary to lie in a relationship?

I think we can safely assume he just left off the [humor] [/humor] tags. [:D]


Personally, I think it's a good idea that any prospective mates get to know, fairly early in the relationship, that you have a hobby. You really want to find one that either likes the idea, or at the very minimum, accepts that you are entitled to a hobby even if she doesn't understand it. While I've heard of some wives who went from being negative about their husband's hobby to being positive, I think that's a small minority. Better off finding one who likes/accepts it from the start.

Good luck,

Ed

[Jetrock]

Necessary, no. Helpful, yes.

This may sound strange, but lying only helps if you're honest.

If you're lying to cover up something bad that you've done, you're doing it for the wrong reason.

If you're lying by omission to keep the peace, it's the helpful sort.

Compliments, exaggerations, willingness to overlook or ignore the acceptable faults of the woman in question, or her relatives, friends, hobbies or cooking skills, are an example of the kind of lies I'm talking about.

Dressing to conceal bodily flaws, perfumes to conceal odors, body products to conceal blemishes--what are these but lies we wear on ourselves?

Determining what kind of lie to tell takes practice and the ability to tell lies from truth. Not for the uninitiated. But it happens naturally for many.

Put it this way--I didn't have any girlfriends when I was 15, because I didn't know how to tell these kind of lies yet.

SpaceMouse: Heck, my wife likes guns more than trains. I haven't convinced her to help buy an engine yet, but we have split the cost of several pistols in our collection!

[tatans]

LITTLE white lies, not always so little, remember the guy who bought all those brass engines for years but told his wife they were just toys and cost almost nothing, he dies and she packs up all his "toy crap" and sends it off to the dump. this scenario has appeared numerous times on this forum-----be careful out there, your little lie might just backfire on you.

[twhite]

Well, let's put it this way, cowboy--my HO scale M-4 2-8-8-4's have never asked for Alimony payments![}:)][}:)][}:)]
Tom

[Jetrock]

And if you get REALLY good at lies, there's a future career for you in politics!

[Anonymous]

Where in WY you from? I was born and raised in Cheyenne. My parents still live there and I get back there whenever I can. Ususally about 1 week every other year unfortunately. I would move back in a NY sec if I could find a way to support myself and my family.

I know this is off subject, but I couldn't help replying to a Wyomingite. My heart aches for home... can you tell? grin.

On the personal side, I think you are doing just fine and you will find that special someone even in WY. Things have a way of working out.

[Leon Silverman]

Maybe you should consider the image that comes to the minds of these women who think you are crazy when you tell them your hobby is model trains?
When you say "model trains" to most of the uniniated, they usually conjure up an image of a Lionel train set set up to run all over a floor (e.g. Dr. Jeggey Gieger's office set-up in "Chicago Hope."). These are simply toys to most people, who equate this to collectling toy soldiers, stamps, or coins.
The essence of this hobby is that we are buiders and artists who develop skills that can be useful in other aspects of life, such as building, repair, wiring, painting, etc.
Possibly, if you modified your response to say; "I build model trains", or, "I am building a model railroad", you might get a different reaction if the person you are talking to realizes you are not simply a "train collector".
I am currently converting a gargage into train room. I wife is happy to let me do this because I installed a laminated floor in our dining room last fall. The gargage conversion started last year before the floor was done only because I have been able to do most of the work in the garagfe myself. The dining room had to wait until I could get both of my son-in-laws to come over at the same time to help me move the furniture out of the room.

[krump]

[#welcome][C):-)]

trains + woman = both good.
I got married in my early 30's... they have a way of finding you (if you don't hide too far in the country hills). Have a great day.

[trolleyboy]

Hey don't worry bout it both can and do work well together in fact the hobby can be a drawing card if presented the right way. 1. It shows you r artistic for some women that's a plus. 2 you built and wired it so that shows that your handy a handy person is a good person to have around.3. Once your married or at least very serious she knows that on the weekends she goes away with her friends to the spa that your hobby keeps you at home an daway from possible homewreckers who are looking for an artistic handy guy like yourself.[:D] TB